Am I a red flag to you?
Long story short, I’m (f43) in my 40s and for all
Intents and purposes I’m a virgin (I mean in terms of experience and exploration sexually, I know I’m not an actual virgin).
I have only ever been with my ex husband (turned out he is gay, go figure), and for better part of a decade the bedroom was a dead zone and over the last 3 years there was no sex at all… and even early on things were extreme vanilla.
We’ve been divorced for just about a year, and now I’m ready to try to date again… but I feel like a literally 40 years old virgin, and I can’t imagine someone would want to take the time to take baby steps with a 43 year old women. I just figure it’s a headache that men wouldn’t want to deal with (I know a lot of you guys don’t want somebody that’s like been with a bunch of people).
I don’t know… just wondering if there’s any advice or viewpoints of how to break this to someone, and what advice on how to potentially be with someone and not be a mood killer bc I might be a little slow to come out of my shell.