u/Empty-Detective-6961

My partner 21M, split on me possibly on fear of abandoment Im Avoidant 26M (Non BPD), I caught them seeking validation through online flirting, nothing very explicit but since then he says maybe monogamous will not work, and to not put a label, I later thought about my limits and feeling like a choice made me canceled on him to visit to his city, since then he stopped reaching out, but its been about 15 days and still watches my stories very fast, saw him on dating apps, I am too, thing is how long is this splitting going to take, I actually did the best from love so it's really weird, or is it too soon?