going no contact with my mother starting from tomorrow
I’ve been thinking about going no contact with my mother for a while, and recent events have made me take it more seriously.
This isn’t based on one argument, but a long-term pattern. I’m an independent adult, but I often feel emotionally unheard in my relationship with her. When I try to talk about my life or feelings, it often turns into defensiveness, blame, or the conversation being redirected away from my experience.
Over time, I’ve realized I don’t feel emotionally safe or supported in these interactions, especially when trying to discuss more vulnerable topics.
Another big factor is that I’ve been thinking about having a child in the future (possibly through adoption), and I don’t feel confident that this kind of emotional dynamic would be healthy or stable for a child who may already be vulnerable.
Because of this, I’m seriously considering low or no contact. I’m independent, so it’s possible, but still emotionally complicated.
I’d really appreciate hearing from others who’ve made similar decisions how did you know it was time, and did you feel sure about it?