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Hanging out with ex

Its been a week since we broke up and it was very harsh. Two days later our no contact ended and she said we can just be friends. I bought tickets beforehand to a concert so we have to go since I cannot refund it. Should I make a move or just get through night and end it permanently because im not an idiot and dont wanna be friends with her. I also will be picking her up and wanted to take flowers but I just want to try atleast.

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u/PhoenixKing171 — 4 hours ago
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Update: After the apology post I mentioned earlier, she deleted it... then sent me "How do you not miss me?" after 49 weeks of no contact

This is an update to my previous post about my girl I used to talk to tagging me in an apology post after 49 weeks of no contact. A lot of people said it sounded like she was looking for closure, and honestly, I thought the same.

Well... things got a little weirder today.

She first deleted the tag/comment on that apology post around 9:00 PM. I figured that was the end of it and maybe she had changed her mind.

Then, around 9:45 PM, I got a DM from her saying:

"Bro... How do you not miss me?"

I haven't replied yet

Now I'm even more confused than I was earlier. If she wanted closure, why delete the apology and then message me that? If she didn't want to talk, why reach out at all? And if she did want to reconnect, why start with "Bro" and then ask such an emotional question?

For context, I still haven't contacted her once during these 49 weeks. Every interaction today the apology post, deleting it, and the DM was initiated by her.

I'm trying not to read too much into it, but I'd be lying if I said it didn't catch me off guard.

What would you make of this? Is this someone testing the waters, acting on impulse, or just having a moment of nostalgia? And if you were me, would you respond or leave it alone?

I can't attach the screenshot here

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u/smhthought — 12 hours ago

I miss his text

Him and I are friends. 2 years ago, he approached me because he liked me. I do not want to be in a relationship because it really is not practical bc strict parents. So we remained friends. He never asked mento be his girlfriend because he knew I wouldn't say yes. He let me know he liked me and continued to maintain a fun friendship. Eventually I thought about how this would turn out in the future,that I may be giving him fake hope and starting treating him very rudely and not updating each other about our daily lives like we used to. We occasionally would get into huge fights and make up. We go on long breaks between fights but it normally went away in some days. This whole year, the total days we've talked maybe 7 days because I treated him so bad our fight were very frequent. The latest argument we had was in May and we haven't talked since. I don't know I really miss him right now. I want him to text me. But last time when he said he'll try to not text again, I said please try hard. Ik that was harsh but I think I love him. Ik it's not possible for us to be together maybe but at the moment I really really miss him. I've started to develop feelings maybe? i dont know???😭

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u/Dense-Code1036 — 13 hours ago
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How do I let go and make peace of her choosing herself?

For context: we've been together for 3 years and 5 months. And just last May, we broke up. We've kept contact until today June 5. But i told her how i feel i told her sometimes i felt confused with the sudden push-pull dynamics we have. But i was the reason we broke up, i got too controlling too insecure for months since last year, and she got tired of it. She lost herself in the process of trying to adjust on my needs and insecurities. Then today we've talked about our setup and I may have said something in a way that i don't mean to, which i understand why it might've come off, so in the end she told me to let's stop our setup. She told me to stop begging to maintain our friendship, and social media following. I didn't beg i respectfully accepted it. But the real question is, how do i move on? How do i keep moving forward? What do i do now? It feels unbearable to not reach for her when i subconsciously do. Please help me. I respect her and i dont wanna smother her. How do i get better? What are the things I can do now?

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u/CrowShin — 13 hours ago
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I need some advice. If my ex-boyfriend broke up with me, and I'd like us to start talking again, should he be the one to break no contact, or should I do it?

A month ago, I sent him a lot of messages, but he never replied. Since then, we've had no contact. Should I just leave it up to him now, or is it okay for me to reach out at some point?

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u/AnshieBlue — 15 hours ago
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Need ex advice

My ex and I are both 17. We dated for about a year and it was the first serious relationship for both of us. He was my first boyfriend, my first sexual partner, I met his family, we went on trips together, and we built a really strong connection. Throughout the relationship he constantly told me I was the person he had loved the most, that he had never met anyone like me, that he wanted to marry me, and that he had never felt such a deep connection with anyone before.
During the relationship, however, he would sometimes tell me he felt confused and had doubts. Eventually he broke up with me.
About a week after the breakup we started talking again and got closer, but nothing really came from it. Some time later we reconnected again, this time much more seriously. We went on several dates, spent a lot of time together, became intimate again, and honestly it almost felt like we were back together.
The strange part was that whenever we were together in person, everything felt perfect. He was affectionate, loving, playful and genuinely happy to be with me. It honestly felt like he was completely in love with me whenever we were together.
However, as soon as we went home, everything changed. He became distant, texted less, almost disappeared, and told me he still didn’t know what he wanted. It was as if he could only enjoy the relationship while we were physically together, but once he was alone, all of his doubts returned and he pulled away again. This pattern happened more than once.
A few days ago I called him because I didn’t want to lose our connection completely, and we ended up having a serious conversation.
He told me that right now he doesn’t think we can be friends because there are still feelings on both sides. He said that if we keep talking, it creates false hope for both of us, not just for me. He also said we need time to get used to things as they are and learn to see each other differently because we were never just friends. At one point he even said something like, “I don’t randomly call my female friends to check if they’re okay, so it would feel weird.”
He wasn’t rude and he never said he never wanted to see me again. He just said that, at least for now, he thinks distance is the healthiest option.
Ironically, today he texted me first asking if I was okay. We had a short, normal conversation about football and our day. I asked him a couple of questions back, but then he stopped replying. That left me even more confused because I don’t understand why he reaches out, starts a conversation and then disappears.
I’m still deeply in love with him and I’m torn. Part of me feels like our story isn’t really over because he admitted there are still feelings on both sides, and because every time we’ve taken space before, we’ve somehow found our way back to each other. Another part of me is scared that I’m just holding onto hope.
My question is: how would you interpret this behavior? How can someone seem so happy, loving and connected when we’re together in person, but then go home, become distant and question the relationship again? And how would you interpret him reaching out to check on me, only to disappear again during the conversation? Does this sound like someone who is genuinely confused and needs space, or someone who has already made up his mind but is trying to let me down gently?

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u/Longjumping_Bike_476 — 17 hours ago
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Going No Contact

I’ve told you guys a synopsis of my NPE story, and I appreciate the support. I have decided to cease any and all contact with my mother and her other children. Anyone in the family can get it at this point.
My mother has done nothing to help me work through the trauma that she caused. Now, my oldest daughter is being affected by her narcissistic behaviors.

Most of my family looks up to my mom. I have no idea why. But nevertheless, they do. So when she and I went through the daddy reveal when I was almost 45, she wanted me to keep the secret. I was an emotional wreck after her 4-minute call. Alone at home with an 18-month-old. I thank God for bringing my youngest through one of my roughest times. I’m a veteran with diagnosed severe PTSD and spinal issues.
So I shut down to the outside world so I could be there mentally for my college student and my toddler. This is when she started calling family and friends saying, “She won’t talk to me. I don’t know what’s going on with her.” And family (not knowing why) told her to forget about me, don’t let your children stress you out. They never knew why I wasn’t talking to her, and they didn’t want to hear it from me. When I told a few family members, they would always remind me that people hid stuff.
Now my oldest daughter is catching strays from the family. They don’t communicate with her because they don’t communicate with me. Graveside at my nephew’s funeral, my mother’s youngest sister speaks to everyone but my daughters… and me. I addressed it with my mother, but I knew what that was. So I’m out. I refuse to subject my family to this level of manipulation and dysfunction. When all I’ve wanted was a conversation and for her to be honest to all parties involved.
She’s already started calling friends and family making them think I’m having a psychotic breakdown. She wants sympathy. Next she will have someone call me from a hospital. Like she’s dying from a panic attack. After that, she’ll try using money to lure me closer. Nothing will work. The difference is this time I’m telling everything to anyone that calls me. Everything to everyone hits her where it hurts; truth hurts a lie. Sorry for rambling. Thank you for reading.

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u/Southernbellringer — 1 day ago
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HONEST ANSWERS PLEASE

Hey everyone so i dated this girl for like 1 year 5 months we broke up like two months ago she was a virgin right? we’ve slept together so many times i can’t count and we also slept together on her period from time to time of late i just cannot stop thinking about her and sometimes my heart feels heavy right we are in no contact….. uhm does she also feel the same? like uhm how cooked am i too???

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u/Own-Natural-4461 — 1 day ago
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Should i break no contact?

So ill keep it short me and my ex my first and last gf we dated for around 3 years and in that time we did ldr for 2.5 years but before that she used to live near my town only so we had met each other couple of time but now as we broke up cuz she said she cant do ldr anymore and its been 6 months since we broke up and she has blocked me from everywhere possible where i could text her and in upcoming month like in 1-2 month its her birthday so should i wish her or not?

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u/professor22442 — 1 day ago
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To all and to my fellow victims of ghosting...

Problem/Goal:

  • Is it common to still think of the person who ghosted you?
  • Even if you are in a new connection now?
  • Is it normal because you were never given a clarity?
  • Why do they get to live a normal life while I still grieve once in a while?
  • I deleted the chat histories, their number, blocked them on social media, gave myself the closure because I can feel the distance, silence and coldness all of a sudden.

It has been more than a year ever since the unexpected change. Although I know it was partially my fault for projecting hard the vision and hope of what they could've been versus who they were from the start.

Yes, it is unfair. They never met the efforts and consistency I gave and I romanticized their bread-crumbing. I questioned my worth with this person. I mean, that's it? I became a doormat and lost myself in a sense just to be thrown away like a piece of garbage? I'm that easily disposable and to be discarded?

Maybe I am just having a moment where I am touching the wound and it stung a little bit more today. It has been almost 2 years since the ghosting. My post is messy and my thoughts are everywhere. I don't think I need to go on full detail for my title says it all.

Anyhow, thank you for taking your time to read this.

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u/Aenchanter — 2 days ago
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Messaging him the day after the breakup

started drifting apart after a series of small arguments. He grew tired of my behavior and eventually lost feelings for me. Around the same time, I was going through a difficult period, and he had just started a new job, so it’s true that neither of us had much emotional space.
After we made up from one of our fights, I think he was trying to put in effort again, and I was trying too. But about a week and a half later, I couldn’t stand how different his attitude had become. I asked him whether he still loved me, and told him that if he didn’t, it would be better for us to break up since the situation was too painful for me.
He hesitated at first when I asked him, but when I pushed for an answer, he said “no.” So I told him, “So we’re done.” He replied “probably,” and I said “No it’s not probably “Then he said, “So for sure.”
When I told him I thought we would stay together longer and that I still wanted to be with him, I asked if he didn’t even want to try again. He said he had tried but couldn’t do anything, and that he didn’t want to anymore. So I thanked him for everything, and he replied as well.
After that, I blocked his contact. But the next day, I couldn’t hold it in and texted him saying, “Sorry for suddenly messaging you, but I still want to be with you.” He hasn’t replied yet, and I’m currently waiting for his response.
What is he thinking right now? Is it possible that he will never reply at all? At this point, does his answer seem like a “no” too?
Sorry, English isn’t my first language.

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u/Fancy-Progress-868 — 1 day ago
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is he being tactical or an asshole? maybe tactical asshole

i hate to admit that the not getting my things back is bothering me more than i care to admit.

for context, my ex broke up with me twice (kinda). first instance was because he felt he “wasn’t enough” for me. he ended up texting me a week later after to return some stuff i left at his house as an excuse to see me and wanted to get back together. within that week on no contact, i decided to move to my dream city as nothing was holding me back.

anyways we are in contact for a month of us “trying” and he “dumped me again”. within the time of contact i had an amazon package accidentally shipped to my old address and asked if he could send it to me. after we broke up, a week went by and so i left a voicemail asking him to send it asap along with my address. he takes a week to reply saying he’s going to ship my stuff and send the info later. i was obviously going to reimburse him. the thing is he never ended up sending me the info but i thought no big deal as i only moved a few states away and knew shipping would only take three days as my mom who lives near him sent me a package that took that long.

fast forward to now, it’s been two weeks and nothing. no tracking info nor package. it’s frustrating because i’d like to get the things i bought for myself and it just doesn’t make sense why he would keep it. i know i could just replace it myself but if he has it and was willing to ship it, that’s easier for me. i keep seeing on the internet that it’s hardly ever about the stuff and more of a tactic to keep communication open.

thoughts?

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u/applecrisplove — 1 day ago

UPDATE to: My (24F) boyfriend (34M) put a tracker in my car, called my sacrifices “cheap,” told me I needed to “listen to everything he says,” and now that I blocked him he’s contacting me from different numbers and calling my mom. He said he wanted peace… now he’s calling.

Hi everyone. I honestly didn’t expect to be writing another update.
First, thank you to everyone who commented on my last two posts. A lot of your comments helped me realize things I had been minimizing for a long time.
Since then, we’ve mostly been untangling our lives. We closed our joint bank account, he immediately sent me the money he owed me, and I told him I’d be removing myself from his insurance. I genuinely wanted all communication to stay about logistics.
After I unblocked him for that, he texted me saying that now that I wasn’t blocked, he wanted me to know there was no hatred in his heart, that he was working on himself, that his family regrets everything that happened, that he hadn’t really told anyone about the breakup, and that if I ever needed anything not to hesitate to reach out.
I thanked him.
Then he called me.
Twice.
I didn’t answer.
This is where I’m confused.
This is the same man who told me he wanted the breakup, repeatedly said he wanted peace, ignored me for days afterward, and made me feel like I was simply too much. Now that I’ve finally stopped chasing him and started accepting that it’s over, he’s calling.
I don’t know what changed.
My parents know he called, and they’ve both made it very clear that if I ever got back together with him, they couldn’t support that decision because they watched this relationship change me in ways that scared them. Even now they don’t fully believe me when I tell them I’m not going back because they know how much I loved him.
One thing that’s also been weighing on me is conversations I’ve had with one of his cousins. She’s continued checking on me and has been incredibly kind. She told me she believes he resented me because I made more money than he did. That surprised me because he was a lawyer in his home country, he’s incredibly intelligent, and he was recently accepted into a master’s program here. She also told me he had spoken to family about how I didn’t “hold him down.”
That one really hurt because I loved him before the car, before the job, before any of those things. I loved him when he was still new to the U.S. and trying to build a life. I never cared what he had. Hearing that almost made me feel like the entire relationship had been rewritten.
She also told me something else that made me think. My ex has an older cousin he looks up to almost like a father figure. According to her, this cousin was the one who told my ex that putting a tracker in my car was normal and an expression of love rather than control. My mom always worried that if I married my ex, I’d end up repeating the same unhealthy relationship patterns she believed existed in that part of the family.
The strange part is that I don’t really feel the overwhelming panic anymore.
Now I mostly feel… numb.
I’m spending time with family, my siblings are coming from Florida soon, I’m looking for a trauma therapist, and I’ve been watching a lot of Dr. Ramani’s videos because they’ve helped me understand relationship dynamics in a way I couldn’t before.
I still want to get married one day. I still want children. Part of me is scared about starting over at 24, but another part of me knows I can’t build a marriage on hope that someone will eventually become different.
I don’t hate him. I genuinely hope he gets help if he needs it.
I just still can’t understand one thing.
If someone says they want peace, asks for the breakup, ignores you for days, and then starts calling once you’ve accepted it’s over… what do you think is usually going through their mind?
I’m genuinely asking because I don’t plan on answering, but I’m still trying to make sense of it.
**TL;DR:** My ex wanted the breakup, ignored me for days, then after we finished separating our finances he texted saying there’s no hatred in his heart, his family regrets everything, and he’s working on himself. Then he called me twice. I didn’t answer. I’m finally starting to move on, but I’m still trying to understand why someone who insisted on ending the relationship suddenly reaches back out once you’ve accepted it.

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u/CaterpillarNew6458 — 2 days ago
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GF Ghosted for a week- 3 month relationship. What’s going on?

31M & 35F 3 month relationship

Been in a relationship with this girl for 3 months.

It’s been awesome moved fast but was still feeling great we had a lot of meaningful dates conversations and intimacy we even went on vacation together on a weekend away.

She has ghosted me for about a week now and I’m honestly losing my self.

I didn’t hit her up cause it was unusual behavior and I’m normally the one who initiates conversation so was waiting on her to initiate or say something.

Last week she went pretty cold after a night out with her friends the day after our date. When I say cold I mean distant and she would take hours to reply I’m talking maybe three messages in a day which were pretty meaningless “good morning” or “have a good day “texts.

It didn’t bother me cause I figured she’s just busy with family and then the week went on and she messages me one message on monday saying hope your day was good after ignoring my message on the Sunday without explanation.

I still didn’t mind.

Tuesday went by and I message her in the morning telling her I got tickets for us to see a show this Thursday. She agrees and says she’ll make it and then I said “that’s great I can’t wait to see you, how was your day” then on Wednesday there’s no reply and complete silence.

Thursday comes along and she messages me telling me her pet dog is sick and she’s at the vet.

I tell her not to worry be reassuring and supportive to her

Tests come back normal and the dog is fine but she cancels Thursday as she was emotionally overwhelmed.

I was completely understanding and told her not to worry and to just let me know if there’s anything I can do for her and that I’m there for her.

LITERALLY THE LAST THING I SAID. & NOW RADIO SILENCE.

This has been eating me alive.. I am losing my dignity as it is and feel like she’s been distant before the dog situation. & honestly I’m not a bad person for waiting on her to communicate. I wanted to give her space. But she has completely ghosted me.

Here are some red flags.

She still texts her ex of 9 years (even on dates with me)

She once mentioned her ex would fly over if anything happened to the animal.

She is glued to her phone when we’re together and doesn’t reply to me after hours if I text

She doesn’t really ask me how I’m doing.

She cried to me about her ex while she told me she loved me in the same sentence.

I love her and wanna be with her

Can someone explain what may be going on and how to get closure ?

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u/Dangerous-Row-5142 — 2 days ago
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How to move on from this ending?

Been dating this guy for 5 years. We’re in our late 20s now. Known him since high school and reconnected in our early 20s. Met each others’ families, got engaged, set our wedding date and chose vendors together. He’s always been there for me (and I tried my best too) and has always been super thoughtful. He was kind and patient when things were good. We’re different people but I thought we meshed well together. 8 months before our wedding date, he completely blindsides me and drops a bombshell that he fell out of love with me, he doesn’t know if I’m the person for him, he’s not sure if I even love him for him (I do) and he starts listing a bunch of things that are “wrong” about me (I’m too quiet at social gatherings, I’m waiting till marriage to do certain things, I’m not stylish, I have too many fam events and am too dependent on my parents, he doesn’t think I appreciate him).

He also has been saying mean things to me during limbo when we tried to work things out (I was apologizing for things I did that hurt him, I really loved him and went out of my way to make him happy in the best way I knew at the time but I had no idea it wasn’t enough, especially when he would tell me I’m perfect or how he’s grateful to do life with me)… mean things he said include how it feels like the cooties when I touch him, how I’m boring and I should be boring with someone else, how he can’t picture me as his wife and how he couldn’t see me walk down the aisle (all things that hurt to hear). He also disclosed that he cheated on me 2 years ago (kissed a girl from school a few times during the span of a week). He eventually broke things off with me saying he can’t proceed because he doesn’t have feelings. This all came as a shock to me because I had no idea he was falling out of love. I thought we were planning for our happily ever after together. Sometimes I blame myself for the things I could’ve done better (been more appreciative, more outgoing, more stylish) - he evaluated me and didn’t let me in on his problems. Any insight and opinions would be helpful.

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u/starbuckslover_forev — 2 days ago
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My ex says she still has feelings for me but doesn’t want a relationship because she’s scared of getting hurt again. Am I being patient or just setting myself up for heartbreak?

I (22M) dated my ex (20F) for a while, and after we broke up, we slowly found our way back into each other’s lives. The breakup wasn’t ugly or toxic, and over time we’ve become incredibly close again. The confusing part is that our connection now sometimes feels even deeper and more comfortable than when we were actually together.
She has explicitly told me multiple times that she still has feelings for me and that she can’t cut me off, but she also says she doesn’t want a relationship right now because she doesn’t want to give someone that much emotional power over her again after being hurt in previous relationships.
According to her, she’s scared of getting hurt and isn’t ready to put labels on things again.
The problem is that her actions often don’t match someone who sees me as “just a friend.”
She calls me babe/baby, sends me reels and voice notes, reaches out first sometimes, asks for my opinion on things like her makeup, and opens up emotionally. She genuinely shares more about her life now than she sometimes did when we were officially dating.
At one point, we had a conversation about other people, and she jokingly said she’d kill me if there was another girl. I asked if there was another guy on her side, and she immediately said, “Hell nah.”
She has also said that she doesn’t want me talking to other girls, even though technically we’re not together.
Earlier this year, I went on a trip to the Philippines and posted stories. After seeing them, she texted me asking things like:
Did I move on that quickly?
Was there another girl?
Was she better than her?
That jealousy genuinely surprised me because we’re technically exes, yet she still seemed emotionally affected by the possibility of me moving on.
We’ve also spoken on calls for hours at times, and after reconnecting, we went on our first proper date post-breakup.
The date itself went really well. We spent a lot of time together, talked about life, joked around, and at the end of the night we ended up making out. It honestly felt like things were naturally falling back into place.
The only weird part was that we got stopped by the police while sitting in a quiet area, and ever since then she jokes about having “PTSD” about meeting near her place because she doesn’t want another awkward encounter with the police. Whenever I suggest meeting in her area, she’ll jokingly bring that up.
More recently, she sent me a reel saying:
“Nobody’s coming to save you… unless I call my ex crying.”
For context, I am the ex.
I laughed, sent her a meme back, and she found it hilarious. We still flirt, joke around, send memes, and generally act very comfortable with each other.
However, the thing that genuinely messes with my head is the inconsistency.
Some days, everything feels amazing. The conversations flow naturally, she’s affectionate, playful, and it genuinely feels like old times.
Other days, she’ll disappear for hours or even a full day and text back the next morning like nothing happened.
Sometimes she’ll say things like:
“You’re single, you don’t have to explain anything to me.”
Which logically makes sense because we’re technically not together, but emotionally it feels very detached considering that at other times she’s possessive, affectionate, jealous, or openly admits to having feelings.
The intensity fluctuates a lot.
Some days I genuinely feel like we’re slowly finding our way back to each other.
Other days I wonder whether she’s emotionally distancing herself and I’m just reading too much into everything.
I don’t expect constant texting or immediate replies because people have their own lives, college, work, stress, and responsibilities. I think what hurts me more is the unpredictability and not knowing whether the inconsistency is because she’s scared and protecting herself or because she’s simply not as invested as I am.
The truth is that I do want her back eventually.
I don’t necessarily need labels right now, and I’d honestly be happy taking things slowly—meeting up, spending time together, going with the flow, and eventually having an honest conversation about what we both want.
I also feel like she helped me through one of the hardest periods of my life, and I genuinely want to be there for her too, provided that’s something she wants. I know I can’t force someone to stay or love me, but unless she gives me a reason not to, I want to remain in her life.
So I guess my questions are:
Does this sound like someone who genuinely has feelings but is afraid of commitment and getting hurt again?
Are the disappearing acts and fluctuating intensity normal in situations like this, or am I ignoring obvious signs that she’s simply not as invested as I am?
Is giving this another month or two without forcing labels the right move, or am I setting myself up for disappointment?
If you were in my position, what would you do differently?
Finally what should I do to get her back?
I know nobody here can tell me exactly what she’s thinking, but I’d appreciate some outside perspectives because I’m probably too emotionally involved to see things objectively.

Ps: I used ChatGPT cus it alr knew everything and I didn’t wanna type it all out

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u/SCRANZY1 — 3 days ago

What do men think or do after no contact or break up?

We had a toxic fight and started the no contact or break up 4 days ago. I initiated the break up and blocked him immediately while he was sleeping. (Btw we live separately) Though he was the one who said he doesnt want me anymore and told me I’m not his “peace.” I know he said that out of anger knowing him, but deep down I know it’s true also. We’ve been on and off and I feel like we both turned each other off over time but the love is there. We have gone so many battles together but I just know we are not emotionally compatible. I don’t know if me having his first girlfriend makes any bearing how he handles relationships. He doesn’t just understand me emotionally sometimes.

But since I blocked him, I stalk his ig from time to time and I’m still at his profile (ig highlights and posts of me). We even have a groupchat with our friends talking about our planned trip next week, and he replied on behalf of us like “sige pagusapan nalang namin” or “update nalang namin kayo” (he is talking about us here). So like, in public he does not show we’re off. But the way he said hurtful things to me the day of break up and mental breakdown is to painful and unbearable for me. Bilang babae nafefeel ko yung words nya na galit na galit sya, resentful and always say things that I’m no longer his peace, he doesnt want me anymore and said if ever we live in the same house, he wouldn’t want to be in a house full of fight etc.

I get him that I too have some moments, but we’re just not compatible in my perspective.

Now my question is what do guys normally do after no contact or break up? Do you still think of your partner from time to time? Do you distract yourself?

As a woman it’s very hard for me not think of him every single minute!! It’s so hard to distract my self and I have been bed rotting most of the days unless I have to work (wfh btw ako). I know he will pursue me again but I dont know when this is the longest no contact we have ever experienced, since also I blocked him lol. I feel like he is also emotionally exhausted in our relationship. A part of me also don’t want to get back because it is draining and never ending cycle.

Please be nice on the comments and tell me the most realistic experience you have as a guy or boyfriend. Thank you!

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u/Level_Shopping7086 — 2 days ago
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Struggling with no contact

I ended up reaching out to him on the last social media we were connected on just asking how his weekend was and he blocked me :/
Really struggling . We dated for two years. And have been through a lot together. We share mutual friends and are in shared hobby groups , any advice 💗tempted to move to a new city but don’t have the means right now :/ I just wanted to be friends but he doesn’t want to be . Will it be this way forever?

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u/Illustrious-Hunt3924 — 2 days ago
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Did I make the right call breaking it off with her?

My ex and I had been dating for 5 mounths she was living with me and I loved her she was light of my life I walk home every night from work and this dude picked me up dropped me off and told me have ur girl text me.turns out she was sleeping with him I had to look in her phone. the next day I found out he wasn't the only one there where multiple men she was seeing and sharing nudes with. I end up breaking up with her and it was hard I was so sad constantly my heart was broken.after two mounths she called and I let her stay the night she wanted to reconcile we made love then later on that day I noticed she was texting other dudes I saw her.that night I told her this is the last time we see each other this is a onetime thing right?she started crying snotting and I told her about that ride home her boy toy gave me and that I dont know what this even is what did she expect she left and I blocked her but some of my heart is just destroyed now.

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u/Next-Juice3146 — 3 days ago
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My ex narc wife is apologizing and asking for reunite

Hi, We had opted for mutual divorce 3 months back. I have suffered a damn abusing relationship with my narcissistic wife for 10 years and we are having an 8 year old daughter too. We both are working and earning similar & the custody of the daughter is with her mother.

I have suffered too much harassment mentally, physically and financially in that relationship and same is with my parents as well. I was fortunate enough to get rid of her,but she is pleading me to reunite inthe name or our daughter. She is constantly presurring me emotionally that this all affecting daughters mental health etc. she is weaponising daughter as well.

Even she is taking help of my daughter's school teacher, out family Doctor etc to gain sympathy and forcing me to bring her back in my life.

Today I get a call from my daughter's school class teacher that she wants to meet me tomorrow and discuss regarding my daughter.

I know it's all planted by my ex-wife, but since it's about my daughter i have to go....pls suggest me what should I do ??

Sometimes I really fall in a guilty trap and start thinking future with her but experience of past is haunting badly

📌Daily Fights

📌 Blaming for everything

📌 Suside threats

📌 No physical relation since last 3.5years

📌 No involvement in any social or family gathering

📌 Abusing my parents openly

📌 Throwing mobiles, tv etc

📌 Calling women police and harrasment

The list is too long....what to do ??

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u/justmonik10 — 3 days ago