So I was thinking of reaching out to him around Thursday because that’s when I’ll be free, but I miss him and want to talk to him today. Is it too early to text him today?
My ex and I were on and off for almost a year, and I’m struggling to figure out whether this breakup is genuinely final or just another part of a cycle. Earlier this year, we ended things because he said he didn’t want a relationship and couldn’t give me what I wanted. We went completely no contact for about three months. Eventually, he came back, apologized for how he treated me, told me he missed me, and wanted to see me again. Things seemed different this time, and I genuinely thought we were moving toward something more serious. However, about two weeks after reconnecting in person, he suddenly ended things again. This time, he was extremely cold and told me he never had romantic feelings for me, that we were incompatible, and that he didn’t want to see or speak to me again. He also admitted that he’d treated me horribly.
When I asked whether there could ever be another chance in the future, he initially said potentially, but then took it back.
It’s been almost a month since the breakup, and we haven’t had a real conversation since. I’m respecting his decision and not planning to reach out. I know this dynamic isn’t healthy, and I’m trying to move forward regardless. I’m just having a hard time seeing the situation objectively because I’m emotionally involved.
Does this sound like a pattern where someone is likely to come back again, or does the way he ended things this time suggest he’s genuinely done? Has anyone experienced something similar where an ex was adamant it was over but eventually returned?
I’d been on a pretty good streak—5 or 6 months out of the 7 I’ve been in no-contact—without looking at any of his social media at all. But today, for some reason, I just had an impulse. Since I also have OCD, I got stuck in a loop of compulsively opening and closing Instagram to make sure I hadn't accidentally followed him. Luckily, his account is private so I couldn't see anything, and he still has the same profile picture, so I couldn't feed the rumination; still, I feel pretty disappointed in myself. Does anyone have experience with minor relapses like this?
I’m fucking broken, completely shattered, never felt so betrayed. The extent at which she is avoiding emotional accountability/ disregarding my existence feels illegal. Am I wrong for feeling like she is a coward?
Is this what no contact is? If so, how is this healthy for either of us?
I simply can’t move on… Loved this girl more than I love myself. I know…I can’t do that, it’s not healthy, etc. etc. welll I did and now I feel like I’m as good as dead. Void of purpose, void of hope, VOID.
Context: I’m 26M, she’s 24W. lived together past 2 years. Nothing seemed off, she left to visit family, never came back. Got CC’d on an email about a break lease contract. Did what I could to communicate- without crossing any boundaries. I didn’t receive anything in return, other than more and more barriers at communicating (blocked on basically every last mode of communication, other than email but I don’t think im able to tell if my email is blocked even if it was). I eventually signed the break lease agreement, as to not make this anymore messy than it already is. Im aware I could have held off on signing it to get what I’ve been pleading for, but fuck that.
No longer attempting to communicate with her. I’ve been trying for almost 3 months. I do send an email like once a week now for my own sanity. Idk why but it helps when I’m at the brink of losing it.
Rn I’m “enjoying” the final days at the place we once happily shared. Official final move out date is right around the corner. She has not come to grab any of her stuff at any point. I was planning on staying till the last day to get the clarity I need to move forward with my life. Also so she has to acknowledge this mess.
I feel like it’s my only choice, it’s my apartment too. Although I’m nervous I may be coming off as “intimidating” since im a guy and I’ve heard all the stories from other guys that were “in my shoes”. Even though we’ve never had any experiences where she’s accused me or I’ve accused her of anything, I feel like this is a sensitive situation and I can’t say I know who she is/ if she’s the same person anymore. So I don’t put it past her to avoid accountability further and pull up with police if she sees I’m here or my cars here or something like tht idk.
I really do just love her so fucking much and want what she wants. If I’m not making her happy so be it, I hope she can move on and be happy with someone else. On god, I’m so serious. Like my problem has nothing to do with me wanting her back, or having the opportunity to “win her back”. I’m OVER THIS (abuse?)TOO.(feels like abuse/abandonment.
Cuz we were serious, talked about spending our lives together)
I wish she knew that.
I’ve complied with every step of this process, In the way that best suits what she is putting off as her desires. But it’s like cmon, atleast tell me what I need to hear, at least send me a mf handwritten letter if you don’t want me hitting u up on your phone. Anything at all would make my brain stop spinning, tirelessly searching for answers that I’ll never get, at least at this point think I’ll never get.
Any advice on how I should handle the final move out day situation? Also any advice on what the fuck I should about my mental health, I feel like I need to be put in a fucking hospital. I’m okay fr, but I don’t know how I’m supposed to carry on.
Anything that doesn’t make sense, I’m happy to clarify. I wrote that fast asf, cuz I hate thinking about this.
Thanks for listening if you’ve made it to the end, Truly.
You’ve done more for me than she has.
you’ve fulfilled my one and only request to be fucking heard and listened to.
You’ve granted me a portion of the inner peace that she relentlessly refuses to allow.
I've been no contact with my narc mother and my golden child brother for 4 years now. I wish I had done so sooner.
We broke up in August 2024. It was a very sudden breakup, and I was completely shattered. Her behavior toward me at the end was really horrible. After that, I tried several times to convince her to come back, but she never did, and I kept getting hurt in the process.
Eventually, I gave up in May 2026. Then, a month later, in June 2026, it was my birthday. She casually wished me in the morning.
After that, I sent her one last long message because, this time, I had truly given up. I didn’t want her existence to remain a part of my life anymore because I felt that distancing myself completely would help me move on faster.
Since then, we haven’t spoken at all. It’s been complete no contact until today.
Her birthday is on October 5. Should I wish her? Should I break no contact?
We were already no contact on the Thursday. I sent him one message saying the keys were on the bench and to come after 5:30pm. Then I wrote this note and left it with the keys.
We broke up because he apparently didn’t love me anymore. I don’t really believe that to be honest his actions leading up to the breakup imply otherwise and then his actions and words during the breakup also didn’t make much sense for someone who doesn’t love me. He’s struggling a lot mentally atm, deep depression, psychosis paranoia delusions all centred around me. I’m worried about him because he hasn’t been well and I think this was a rash decision. But I know I have to look after myself now and I will.
He wanted to stay friends still but I couldn’t. I need to move on, but I left this note for the part of me that wants him back.
Do you guys think he’ll ever be back? He never sent anything about the note, I wonder sometimes what he thought when he saw it.
I need support 💔
Another woman (we'll call her Sarah) caused drama, which scared him out of dating. Hes recently divorced and we had a lot of chemistry/attraction. He cut me off immediately. But after 2 weeks he found out "Sarah" had lied. He still doesnt want to date but has said he knows im genuine and isnt mad at me. He just hates drama. We have been in no contact for 6 weeks.. Is he done with me or do you think he is still healing from his divorce? Could he miss me? I messaged one time (2 weeks later) and said I didn't expect a message back. (I dont want him to think I'm controlling or crazy, I do want him to have space) please be kind, my heart is in a loop