u/freebirdd18

TL;DR am I valid for thinking this or am I jerk?

I told this guy five weeks ago that I just didn’t see a future with him, I don’t see myself being with someone like him etc after a year of being on and off. He told me he loved me and then I haven’t heard from him since. I’ll admit that yes I’ve been viewing his socials a lot, and I viewed our old chats on instagram and accidentally sent him a sticker or something, it was a mistake, I instantly deleted it! A week later he’s sent me this and I just think it’s honestly quite dramtic.

Here’s the message:

“I’m annoyed I’m having to reach out, but I saw you sent me a message on Instagram last week and then deleted it. Coincidently it happened on the exact day it had been a month since we stopped all contact. It was a sad day for both of us. I sat on my hands about it for a while because last week was insanely busy and I didn’t really have the mental capacity to deal with it, but I’ve had some time to think about it now.

I’m honestly confused. We agreed on space/no contact, and lately it feels like you’re repeatedly trying to get my attention? Like you’re viewing my stuff so frequently, sending me stuff then deleting it etc.

I didn’t want to remove you from socials because I do genuinely want the possibility of a friendship in the future! But this doesn’t feel like no contact or space. It feels like we’re sitting in this weird middle ground where you’re still showing up in my life without actually saying anything. It’s mixed signals city up in here!! :(

I don’t know where your head is at and I’m not going to try to guess. I hope you’re ok, you know how I feel about you. But you ended this and you asked for space? So if there’s something you actually want to say to me, I’d rather you just say it and be honest! Otherwise, I think we need to stick to the boundary we agreed on, let my feelings die and I’ll reach out to you if and when I feel it’s best to have a friendship with you.”

I don’t know how to respond.

I told this guy five weeks ago that I just didn’t see a future with him. He told me he loved me and then I haven’t heard from him since. I’ll admit that yes I’ve been viewing his socials a lot, and I viewed our old chats on instagram and accidentally sent him a sticker or something, it was a mistake, I instantly deleted it! A week later he’s sent me this and I just think it’s honestly quite dramtic.

Here’s the message:

“I’m annoyed I’m having to reach out, but I saw you sent me a message on Instagram last week and then deleted it. Coincidently exactly a month since we stopped all contact! It’s a sad day for both of us. I sat on my hands about it for a while because last week was insanely busy and I didn’t really have the mental capacity to deal with it, but I’ve had some time to think about it now.

I’m honestly confused. We agreed on space and no contact, and lately it feels like you’re repeatedly trying to get my attention? Like you’re viewing my stuff so frequently, sending me stuff then deleting it etc.

I gave you the grace of still having access to me digitally because I do genuinely want the possibility of a friendship in the future! But this doesn’t feel like no contact or space. It feels like we’re sitting in this weird middle ground where you’re still showing up in my life without actually saying anything.

I don’t know where your head is at and I’m not going to try to guess. But you ended this and you asked for space? So if there’s something you actually want to say to me, I’d rather you just say it. Otherwise, I think we need to stick to the boundary we agreed on.”

What do people think? How do I respond?

I told this guy five weeks ago that I just didn’t see a future with him. He told me he loved me and then I haven’t heard from him since. I’ll admit that yes I’ve been viewing his socials a lot, and I viewed our old chats on instagram and accidentally sent him a sticker or something, it was a mistake, I instantly deleted it! A week later he’s sent me this and I just think it’s honestly quite dramtic.

Here’s the message:

“I’m annoyed I’m having to reach out, but I saw you sent me a message on Instagram last week and then deleted it. Coincidently exactly a month since we stopped all contact! It’s a sad day for both of us. I sat on my hands about it for a while because last week was insanely busy and I didn’t really have the mental capacity to deal with it, but I’ve had some time to think about it now.

I’m honestly confused. We agreed on space and no contact, and lately it feels like you’re repeatedly trying to get my attention? Like you’re viewing my stuff so frequently, sending me stuff then deleting it etc.

I gave you the grace of still having access to me digitally because I do genuinely want the possibility of a friendship in the future! But this doesn’t feel like no contact or space. It feels like we’re sitting in this weird middle ground where you’re still showing up in my life without actually saying anything.

I don’t know where your head is at and I’m not going to try to guess. But you ended this and you asked for space? So if there’s something you actually want to say to me, I’d rather you just say it. Otherwise, I think we need to stick to the boundary we agreed on.”

What do people think? How do I respond?