me (20f) and my bf (19m) cant have sex
ive been with my bf since we were 16 (almost 4yrs) and we’ve been trying to have sex since 17 and we cant. when we did it the first few times it just wouldnt go in at all. we tried everything but assumed my body wasnt ready or i needed to get used to the feeling and eventually it did go in. however, it hurts for me after around 5 minutes of it, hes quite big, i think around 7 almost 8 inches, and it gets painful eventually even with lube. ive tried to endure it sometimes but he cant finish either way? for the first few years he would tell me he couldnt feel anything, so we tried the thinner, sensitive condoms and now he can feel it and has gotten close to finishing but never gets there. im certain they are too small for him. they seem extremely tight and roll up at the bottom and he says it can be uncomfortable. do we try bigger condoms? and how do i stop it from being so painful? it feels frustrating and i get upset because it seems embarrassing that other people my age r having sex but my body just wont let me enjoy it. my bf doesnt mind and we do other stuff to compensate but idk i just want to be normal and be able to have sex and could really use some advice