Confused between love, lust and commitment
I (20F) and my boyfriend (19M) have been in a relationship since 2024, and it has been almost 2 years now. He is committed to me and stable in the relationship, but one thing that keeps bothering me is that he mostly talks about lustful or sexual things. Sometimes it makes me feel very uncomfortable. I have clearly said “no” to him many times, but instead of understanding my feelings, he gets upset or angry.
He often says things like, “Then who will I talk about these things with?” or “Do you want me to go somewhere else?” Hearing such things makes me confused and emotionally pressured. It feels like he is trying to make me guilty for setting boundaries.
The problem is that I am not a very romantic person. For me, a relationship is not only about romance or physical attraction. I value commitment, stability, understanding, and emotional connection more. But he seems to focus a lot more on romance and physical aspects, while I do not connect with relationships in the same way.
Now I am confused about whether his feelings are genuine love or if he is mostly driven by lust. I do know that he cares for me in many ways, but his behavior sometimes makes me question his intentions and whether he truly respects my comfort and boundaries.