AITA for reporting a coworker?
I have been at my new job for almost a year now and I love being there. More than one person has told me that they feel as though I’ve been working there for much longer. I get along with everyone I work with, including people in other departments which has been a nice surprise for me. There is one older man in my department and we share an office with another coworker. While I consider myself close to my coworkers, I didn’t really text them outside of work. When I did text my coworkers it was usually work related or a follow up until 2 months ago.
After discussing music at work with the older man in my department I told them that they can send me more song suggestions as I liked the last one they recommended. When they asked me how and where to send it, by email or text, I said I don’t care. When they asked “how do they even get my number?” I said “idk we have a phone tree, but do whatever you want I don’t care.” At this point we talked comfortably for 20 minutes straight at work every day, so I didn’t think anything about how we communicate and we slowly started to text every day. The conversations were mostly work related or song recs, but it would delve into discussing what we were currently doing, movie ideas, work stories, and general banter. We talked regularly for maybe 2 months, until I got a text that I didn’t know how to perceive.
My coworker texted me over the weekend asking if I was working and if so, could I check the schedule for him. I replied that I’m not at work and I’m doing my hair. We began to immediately chatter about Mother’s Day and the celebration, women having children/birth, his children, a project he’s working on, and I mentioned a work incident. Eventually I stopped responding and announced 2 hours into the night (10pm) that I was officially done with my hair and the color wasn’t what I expected, but I liked it. This is when they mentioned a pic or preview. I explained that I don’t like taking pictures and they’d see me after the weekend. They took it well, so I also mentioned that it’s similar to how this person doesn’t like looking in the mirrors, and that I don’t look the best in pictures. After this I brought up a tv show and he told me “don't mind looking in mirrors in the right situation. What we do in the shadow. Yes! You ever watch flight of the concords?”. I told him I’ve seen parts of the film and that he’s being dramatic with his mirror comment.
This is when he sent me a screen shot of the last picture from my 3rd most recent Instagram in a 8 picture reel. The photo shows me in a green tube top and he captioned the text “this is a good pic.” Objectively, I look good in the pictures but for whatever reason I felt weird. I asked him to delete and he did after telling me that he was just trying to hold up a mirror. When I mentioned it to my coworker they said it needs to be reported. I tried to report it off the record, but management said there’s been other instances so it’s going to HR. AITA?