My boyfriend tries, but I still never climax
Problem/Goal: I (F 20) never climax even though my partner (M 20) does, despite him trying foreplay and different things
Context: For context, we’re both consenting adults and we started being intimate around a month ago. We gradually went from touching, to oral, to sex. The problem is that it feels like he finishes and I never really do. He genuinely tries, foreplay, touching, oral, etc but I never feel like I fully “get there"
Once I’m wet, we usually move to penetration, but I still struggle because he’s above average and I’m not fully used to it yet, so sometimes it’s more uncomfortable than pleasurable for me. What makes me feel conflicted is that when I react from discomfort, he reacts from pleasure, and it makes me feel kind of unfair.
After he finishes, he usually falls asleep because I think he assumes I already finished too from the foreplay and sex. I don’t think he’s intentionally selfish, but I’ve started feeling frustrated and a little sad about the whole situation.
We’re also each other’s firsts, so I’m wondering if this could just be because we’re both inexperienced and still figuring things out together? Is this normal early in a sexual relationship, and how do I communicate this without hurting his feelings?
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