Stepdaughter FAFO
Welp, as I have said before being a stepmom SUCKS!!! Being a stepmom to someone who is a higher functioning autistic, Bipolar, ADD, ODD, narcissistic, manipulative teenager FN SUCKS.
The hubs and have been through it with SD the last 9 years, with therapists, psychologists, psychiatrists, inpatient stays, psych drugs that stay locked away and given to SD under supervision. Questioning but allowing SD to try to regain a relationship with bio mom (therapists suggested it, bio mom showed up to the therapy appointments, whatever). Because bio mom had been weaseling her way back in, SD has been pushing me away more. That's fine. I've always been kept around as decoration and a memory tool when doctors or teachers need answers to questions. Hubs has sucked in the backing his wife up department in the past. They both noticed quicker than I expected when I disengaged and told them "just handle it".
Through it all, SD managed to keep hubs wrapped around her little finger 97% of the time. The wrap has been coming undone the last few weeks as some of her academic issues she lied about have came to light. She managed to talk and her promise her way out of some, but then Wednesday night happened, and little girl f*cked up big time.
Since her dad had been crawling her a$$ she does what she always does; " I feel like I want to hurt myself". Okay fine let's go to the hospital. We are in the parking lot and she screams at me "you never listen". I'm like "We've had you in therapy and under psychiatric care for 9 years. We pay for therapy and testing out of pocket. You say you need a break, you get it. You want to go homebound, BOOM, you're homebound. You need help with school work, Im sitting at the table skimming over your work helping you. What are we not hearing?". That just pissed her off more and she reaches towards me. I don't know what she's trying to get to, so I grab her wrist. She manages to hit the button to put the van in park and she jumps out and starts walking to the ER entrance. I put the van in drive to go park, and this little turd steps in front of the van. I was going like 10 mph so I just stopped.
I park and I see her talking to police and I was like "Greeeeeaaaat". I watch her go inside. I get up there and thank God it the guy that is the resource officer from her school. He says "Maaaarrrch, how goes it? Same sh*t different day?" All I can do is shake my head. He says "Let me see your hands" Again, all I can think is "Fuuuuuuu..." I show him my short hands with my vienna sausage fingers and chewed off nails. Officer looks and me and says, "Hubs coming?" I was like "yeah...." Officer says "Okay go home. I'll keep an eye on her till he gets here."
I call hubs tell him. I go home and shower because I wasn't sure when I'd get another because I was sure that little heffer was going to get me locked up. I get woken up 4 hours later by hubs. The resource officer saw EVERYTHING. Heard her screaming at me. Saw her reaching towards me. Saw me grab her by her wrist in defense. Saw her step in front of the van once I started driving again.
SD told anyone who would listen I "grabbed her arm in anger and scratched her and then tried to hit her with our car". Between the Resource officer seeing and hearing everything in the parking lot and video Hubs had from earlier in the day of SD scratching and clawing herself, SD ended up telling them she just wanted to get away from us for the night. She was sorry and she wanted to come home. Instead she got sent to inpatient at a adolescent behavioral center that is more jail than hospital. The police chief is considering charging her with domestic and/or false reporting. Social services has told her that after this, because her dad is disabled, he can sign for her to go to foster care until she turns 18 in 9 months. And her bio mom? Well, she doesn't mind chatting with SD and visiting, but she doesn't want her to live with her.
SD has been pleading with her Dad to talk to me. To please tell me she's sorry. And he did pass her message along to me; my response was "I know she's sorry; now tell her to apologize."
I don't know what is going to happen at the end of this month. I do know I'm going to enjoy every minute of the reality check she is getting!!!