Should I contact ex partner
Throw away account. Salam, I met this brother online, he seems genuine and a good, honest man. We are in the early stages of getting to know each other but he seems serious about marriage and I don’t think he’s playing games. He was honest with me and told me he was in a relationship with another women for a few years, she was not Muslim and they broke up for that reason. He did mention what he did to her was not nice (I think he meant being with her and eventually ending things because of religion) Doing the math he was about 20/21 when they dated and 23/24 when they broke up.
I was looking at his social accounts and found a woman in a few of his old likes on fb I assumed it was the ex and I was correct. I ended up stalking her accounts and found she made quite a few posts about him. Some were couple posts but some were her venting about him, telling her followers how he broke up with her (email then blocked), a few red flags he had etc etc. It kinda contradicts what he’s showing me and what she’s posting online. I do want to get to know him more but also was wondering if I should reach out to the ex to hear her side of the story? Obviously not now but if things progress with him and we move forward I would like to know what he did that made her make these posts.
For the sisters out there if your exes new potential partners reached out to you asking about him would you find it weird? I personally wouldn’t find it weird unless she messaged me with bad intentions but if a sister asked me genuinely how is this man I would answer with complete honesty whether I have good or bad things to say.
Tldr: New potential seems good with green flags, his ex gf posts questionable stuff online about him. Wanted to know if it would be a good idea to reach out to her to hear her side of the story once me and him are a bit more established.