I'll be attending an already expensive destination bachlorette next month, as maid of honor. The bride made some expensive choices that we tried to mitigate in other areas.
I will be 5 months pregnant, and clearly not drinking. I asked to be left out of alcohol costs (house drinks and charges for meals out).
For reference, at the reserved resurants cocktails run $18-25. Then additional tax and tip.
I was told that that's fine for house drinks, but I may be looped in for meals.
The issue is, that if everyone else orders 1-2 drinks at each meal out this will amount to an extra $100-150pp.
That is not including the pre planned nights out at bars.
I'm generally fine with splitting costs of unevenly priced meals etc, but think it's wholly unfair to be charged for others drinking.
This whole affair has already cost me close to 2k, not including grocery, food, and activity charges that have yet to be included.
Is it fair to be pushed to be left out of these charges?
Update- thank you everyone for the feedback! I plan yo ask for seperate checks (at the beginning of service) for beverages and food. I'm happy to split food, it's a group that shares a lot. I'm awaiting the rest of the group will have no issue with this.
For context, it's generally a pretty high earning group (who live in HCOL areas and are used to expensive meals). However, I am the only one with children.