My 26M fiancé 22F banged her head against a door during an argument.
So my 26M fiancé 22F banged her head against the bathroom door five times during an argument and I don’t know what to do. A few days ago we were having a pretty normal day, had gone to church, got home and did some work on the house, everything was fine. A little background, my fiancé likes things done a certain way and doesn’t handle it very well if things don’t go her way. For lack of a better word she grew up very spoiled and still has some of those tendencies. That being said she did experience some trauma involving her family during her childhood.
The argument escalated to the point where I wanted to leave the house to have some space. I was pretty mad as she had been (rather rudely) questioning my work ethic all day as I was trying to explain to her that we couldn’t afford certain aspects of the wedding she wants (we are paying for the wedding ourselves). She screamed at me saying that I don’t care about her at all and she was just going to throw the engagement ring away. Then I said that maybe if she wasn’t such a horrible person I’d care more. This is when she grabbed the bathroom door and banged her head against it five times, hard enough that the door broke and it gave her a black eye. Then I just stood there in shock as she ran out of the house crying. About a half hour later she came back inside and we have been trying to piece things back together since. I’m just having a hard time with all of this and don’t know what to do. I love her but I am worried for the relationship. Thoughts?