My husband uses arguments to get out of caring for our newborn.
We just had a baby five weeks ago, and the lack of sleep is seriously wearing on me. Ive been on maternity leave while my husband just went back to work two weeks ago. On work nights, I have been caring for the baby through the night so he can go to work well rested… but the lack of sleep is starting to make me resentful and making it hard for me to show up for my son the way I want to. What keeps me going is knowing I get to rest on Friday and Saturday nights. But my husband will refuse to help me when we get into any sort of disagreement, saying its my fault for causing the argument in the first place. Guess how often he takes responsibility for an argument? Yeah. Never. This infuriates me. And then Im right back to wanting to bite his face off when he wakes up because he clearly doesn’t give a shit if I sleep or not.
He barely helps me if he drank the night before because “its not real sleep.” Ok well don’t drink then! Why should I suffer?
When he was splitting baby duty with me, I would care for him 9p-5a and he would from 5a-9a… except he would almost always wake me up at 8 because he was bored even after we started pumping rather than breastfeeding.
Im fed up. Im tired. And I can’t even be bothered to bring this to him because Im sure he will somehow turn it around on me. Should I demand he quit drinking on Friday and Saturday? Should I start asking him to wake with baby on work nights? Am I making something out of nothing?