Is it wrong to tell his girlfriend my friend cheated?
This is going to make me sound like a horrible person.
There's this guy we will call Blue. I've liked Blue for about five years, we've always been kind of friends. We have the same big friend group. We hooked up about three years ago. And a couple times after that.
He's a great guy, but a year ago he started seeing another girl. I don't see him much and he never posts on social media, so I don't know anything about that.
We went out for drinks with some of our other friends recently, and they were pushing us together. We had some drinks and some nice chats. He told me he and his girlfriend were on a break. I'm very extremely drunk, and he takes me to a hotel and we hook up again.
I find out after that he and his girlfriend were not on a break. I really didn't know. I told Blue and our close mutual friend that he needed to tell his girlfriend what happened, and they both assured me that Blue told her.
A couple months later, I find out they lied. They never told her. I feel awful about it. I'd never condone cheating. I want to tell her, but it would wreck our friendships. And it would ruin my friendships with the rest of the group.
I really like him, and It would seem like I have another agenda in telling her. Friends have already said this to me, saying that it would come off like I'm just trying to break them up, as everyone knows I like him
I don't know what to do. I know whats right, but I don't know how to tell her. She's said to me before, no word of a lie, "I wouldn't leave him even if he cheated on me". Which is sad. So i might just be ruining my friendships for no reason. I have no problem doing that, so I can tell her. I really want to say something.
Im not trying to be one of those girls who makes excuses not to say anything, but I'm very scared of losing my friends. I don't know what to do or even how to say it.
Mine and Blue's close mutual friend has told me before:
"Blue told his gf not to beleive anything you say".
This is really making me feel horrible.