u/Entire-Balance-7072

Yesterday I already made a post because I was expecting a meeting with MIL, and I gathered all my strength to get through it. And that expected 1.5h meeting turned into at least a 4h meeting. So MIL called and asked me to come over with my child, so I went there for about an hour and a half. Then I said I had to go home because my brother was bringing his child for me to babysit. She offered to walk me all the way home. Then she went to the store and it was agreed that she would bring something over but then she would leave. She just walked right in. Then I was getting ready to go to the playground with the kids, and she said she would come along because I wouldn't be able to manage two kids on my own, so she came with us to the playground. And she stayed for an hour before finally leaving. And she completely takes over the situation with my child, to the point where I don't know how to act or what to do. I feel so angry after these times because my boundaries are being crossed. I realize that it is entirely my responsibility to set them, and most likely, if I were strong and direct, none of this would have escalated this way, but I just can't, it's so hard for me

My MIL is controlling, constantly crosses boundaries, and presents herself like some kind of Mother Teresa figure, self-righteous, caring, attentive, but underneath it all there’s this need to control everything and be the center of attention. You probably know the type. She made my postpartum period absolutely miserable. I feel so much anger and resentment toward her that my nervous system literally feels threatened when she’s around. I don’t want to feel this way anymore. What do I do? I often think about how I didn’t stand up for myself or my baby during that postpartum period, but I’ve forgiven myself for that because I was so incredibly vulnerable at the time. What I can’t forgive or let go of is what she did to me. The first time I truly dared to set a clear boundary was when my child was 1 year and 3 months old, and to her credit, she respected it. But I still hate her. We still see each other fairly regularly anywhere from once or twice a week to once every couple of weeks. I don’t text her anymore or send her pictures of the baby, my husband does that. If she FaceTimes my husband and the baby, I usually go do something else, like clean the house. When I do interact with her, I stay neutral and just remind myself that the visit will eventually end. But is this really how it’s going to be forever? I honestly feel like I’m traumatized by her. Please help.

I’m currently a SAHM, but I’ll be going back to work soon. My current job is quite stressful and would be hard to balance with having a child. Out of nowhere, my old workplace reached out and offered me the chance to come back. They said the salary would be just as good as my current one, the job would be much easier to combine with raising a child, there would be flexible conditions, etc. They told me they’d think through a more concrete offer and call me back at some point, but it’s already been a month and nobody has contacted me. At this point, is it safe to assume they probably won’t call after all and that I should start preparing to return to my current job? I also don’t really want to contact them myself, because it’s a small company, so it’s not like they simply forgot about me.