u/EntrepreneurNice8445

I’m just so tired of seeing good, faithful people get their hearts broken by people who don't care about anyone but themselves.

But the older I get, the more I notice a pattern: cheaters almost always end up with other cheaters in the end.
They might think they’re winning in the short term, but they always get caught up in their own web. They end up in relationships built on a foundation of paranoia, projection, and mutual betrayal. They can never truly sleep peacefully because they know exactly what their partner is capable of.

Meanwhile, when two genuinely loyal, emotionally mature people find each other, it’s like a breath of fresh air. There are no mind games, no hidden phones, no constant anxiety. Just pure peace.

I truly hope everyone gets exactly what they give out. Let the toxic people deal with each other, and let the loyal ones have the beautiful, peaceful love they deserve.

I (F, Doctor in the Philippines) have been with my husband for 17 years. We were childhood sweethearts, and for the longest time, I thought everything was perfect. The only real issue I had was that it took him so long to propose. I didn't find it alarming at the time because his older sister wasn't married yet, and I assumed he was just letting her "give way" first.
He finally proposed toward the end of 2024. But right after, in December 2024, a girl messaged me with screenshots. It turns out he had cheated on me with her. They only dated a few times, hung out with friends, and he claimed the furthest it went was holding hands. It lasted about two months and they never had a formal relationship. Because of our long history, I forgave him, and we went through with the wedding.
Now, we have been married for just one month, and I am currently pregnant.
Because of his past mistake, I've been feeling insecure. The other night, he fell asleep early, and I decided to look through his phone.What I found completely shattered me. It wasn't just one mistake—I saw that he had been actively chatting with multiple other girls.
Worse, I found an iMessage conversation with a woman who is 6 years older than him. He met her on Kik, and they became Call of Duty (CoD) mobile teammates. When I confronted him, he insisted they were "only" in a 2-year relationship, but I saw messages dating all the way back to 2020 where he was already telling her "I love you." The entire time they were together, this girl had absolutely no idea that he had a girlfriend. He completely hid me from her.
The worst part? She is an OFW (Overseas Filipino Worker) in Spain. Last year (2024), he finished his work contract early and came home. Instead of coming straight to me, he went to her hometown, stayed there for 2 weeks, and they lived under the same roof. When I asked him if they were intimate, he admitted they were—at least 5 times.
I am completely devastated. Since finding out, he has been incredibly supportive and is trying everything he can to make it up to me. But I am carrying his child, we just got married, and I am realizing our entire 17-year foundation was built on a massive lie.
I am a practicing doctor in the Philippines, and I usually know how to handle stressful situations, but this has completely leveled me. He is currently acting like the perfect, supportive husband, trying to do everything right for the pregnancy, but the pain is unbearable.
How do you cope with discovering your entire adult life with someone was a lie? Any advice on how to protect my peace and my pregnancy right now would be appreciated.