She got into a toxic relationship 2 years ago in which her bf at the time had a lot of insecurities causing a huge toll on her emotionally, mentally, and physically. He also didn’t align with most of my bff future plans, morals, and values. She was aware and how much her bf was affecting her and she still wanted to stay. I respected her decision bc I felt like who am I to judge. He’s never liked me and he’d call me the worse things possible without him knowing me personally it was all based on assumptions. I tried to not let him get the best of me until it kept getting worse. My bf told him to fuck off in which he still didn’t. I brought it up to my friend and she dismissed me. Her bf did her dirty and was jeopardizing her health in which I suggested her to seek help from her family in which she immediately refused. I was the only one who knew what was going on between them and I chose to tell my bf especially since I kept being the topic in their relationship in which I made it known to her and she was okay with it.
They broke up, he found out she was trying to date again and didn’t take it well. I’ll spare the details on what he did but I noticed how she would ignore me often and lie on who’d she hang out with. She would ignore my calls and messages and would make excuses every single time yet when I’d try to hang out she’d always put other men first which started to bother me bc whenever she wasn’t around them she then wanted to hangout with me. I brought it to her attention and she dismissed it . She started to talk to a guy who is my family’s friend she made it known from the start she’s not attracted to him however she was liking how she was getting showered with gifts. He became very touchy which made her uncomfortable I spoke up for her bc she claimed to be non confrontational. I cut him irl and blocked him everywhere creating tension at family gatherings. She ended talking to him again bc she felt bad ignoring him. Obviously I got upset and told her she kept making look ridiculous for constantly speaking up for her just for her to end up associating herself again with them.
I also found out she’s been hanging out with her ex bf. She got upset told me she hasn’t seen me the same since 2 yrs ago for sharing her personal info to my bf. Didn’t make sense bc I brought it up to her attention and she agreed. She also tends to do the same with other peoples info so I didn’t see what the problem was with telling my bf. She crashed out on me and described me as a person I know from the bottom of my heart I’m not. Day after …tried reaching out she said she wasn’t ready to talk about it, I gave her space, she wasn’t willing to forgive me but still wanted to be friends. I ignored her message after constantly dismissing how I felt and putting other men she’s barely met over me that she’s known for 10+ years. Our families keep insisting to talk it out but it feels impossible because she lacks accountability and communication. I feel like she also keeps trying to seek male validation it’s gotten outta hand. We work together but now we act like we’re nonexistent.
Am I wrong for ghosting her?