u/EpicErsatz

Long story short: June of 2024 she went into a deep spiritual psychosis, went to a mental facility for 8 days, was released. She was also hooked on sleeping pills and copious amounts of Adderall. Things were rocky until April of 2025 when she went into another one but this one was very violent. She accused me many things and verbally abused and assaulted me and hurt one of the kids. She was taken back to a hospital and I filed a DVPO on her. When I learned she was stable and not taking the sleeping pills or adderal by CPS (Child protective services) they ordered that she was allowed to see the kids. My bleeding heart took over and i let her back in fully and its been a disaster. She hasn't had a mental break but she is back on sleeping pills and adderal. (She will take 2-3 peoples monthly prescription of Ambien and Lunesta in a matter of a week and same for Adderall). Its been progressively getting worse for me mentally the last few months with her highs and lows and it all came to a head this afternoon. I have been thinking about separation/divorce for the past few months and have been telling her I was unhappy etc for a few months now but today she said something that rubbed me the wrong way and I just told her I was unhappy and I can't keep doing this and I wanted a divorce.

AITAH for wanting a divorce and AITAH for dropping it on her like that.

Location: North Carolina/Virginia

Preface: I apologize if this is not the subreddit to ask this and if not can somebody please direct me to one I can ask.

I am going through a legal battle right now trying to get full custody of my step daughter, away from her mom and bio dad (I have a pitbul of a lawyer for the custody) but a question to see if a crime was committed by her bio dad.

First he is a convicted CSA the charge and conviction was around 2010-2011 and he is on the list. I found out a few months ago that sometime back in prob 2021-2022 he engaged in a sexual relationship with a women from Virginia. I am unsure of the woman's age but I believe she was just barely legal (18). He convinced this woman to move down to NC where he engaged in a sexual relationship with this woman then dumped her and started doxing and blackmailing this woman along with some of his online friends. I have an audio recording of him doxing this woman telling her to drink her own urine on camera and stuff like that or he will release naked photos of her on the internet and give her out address and her parents address etc etc etc. Also his daughter (my step daughter who was 6 at the time) was present and he made her get on camera and participate in calling this woman names.

Is the act of convincing her to move and blackmailing/doxing illegal and if so could it be federal at that point?