AITA for being upset over an outfit?
My cousin is getting married let's call him Bill! and we've been in the full swing of planning, he told me himself, the other people that know were told by his parent.
The days later the bees was public my mum (who i am estranged from) and sister we shall call her popo went to my aunts house to talk wedding planning, Few hours later my aunt calls me crying saying the whole thing has been called off, so I called Bill to find out why his mum was so upset turns out Bill and popo had a verbal disagreement that almost turned physical, my mum backed popo my aunt stayed quiet out of shame ( popo has a habit instigating disagreements with people, she's the reason me and my mother are estranged). I called both my aunt and Bill down and managed to get them to agree and communicate and make decisions between the 2 of them, my aunt asked me to come the next day and initiate peace talks between then which I did and it went well. She then asked me to help with the wedding planning to find a venue and communicate with the bride to be let's call her A, which I have done thus far, I was able to find a venue after weeks of calling as the announcement was made end of April, wedding is in August.
After a while of communication A asks me my other sister let's call her Ire and the grooms sister to be bridesmaids, so we run out fit choices by her in the mint green colour she chose. thing to note grooms sister and Ire are the same outfit size im larger than them, we find an outfit we agree we get to outfit ordering mode and Ire who is the most important person in my life messages me privately to say shes not a fan of the outfit (after in the group chat she agreed) and wants to find something different i said sure im up for anything just not body clinging as it doesn't suit my shape.
She sends me 3 outfits all body clinging i said they'll look lovely on you 2 it won't suit me, if that is what you want to wear you 2 go ahead i'll wear something suited to my body, but maybe we can all 3 find something that works on us all, I speak to my aunt about the situation and say when I come to visit next week we can call Ire and discuss it together and find something we all like.
My aunt and Ire then had a call ,,(Ire confessed this) in which they decided Ire and grooms sister will match and I will match the brides sister ( brides sister already has a dress) I spoke to Ire and said I'll wear whatever my aunt wants as long as its not body clinging.
Aunt mother and popo went shopping on Friday aunt brought an outfit for Ire and sister of the groom (not body clinging) and left me out, which really upset me, outfit not at all body clinging something similar to what I have worn in the past.
I messaged Ire to say I was upset at being left out i feel a bit used I've secured the venue, i've designed the invite from scratch to make it one of a kind, it driven to my aunt when she needed me the most to patch her relationship with the groom her son, I'm hurt to be left out
Ire went on a rant saying I was being dramatic about the outfit I kept rejecting every option put in front of me ( only 3 options offered to me were the 3 body clinging ones mentioned above), she then said im ruining another relationship im ruining another wedding ( last year I was punched in the face at a wedding because someone called me a whore and didnt like it when I implied the same about her daughter), Ire then went on to say they didnt want me wearing the same and im not part of the family im disowned, im not allowed to see her kids, those kids are my world this year alone I flew out to see them 3 times in 4 months and had tickets for 2 weeks time to visit again, no one else from the bloodline makes an effort for her or her kids including her husband.
Am I the asshole for being upset and causing what Ire classes as a scene?