u/Equivalent-Can1674

Okay, title is half-joking....but I see so many posts of people's crazy symptoms that make me go, "oh, thank god, I'm not the only one this is happening to!" so I thought I'd describe my weirdest new symptoms.

For the past year or so, before a front moves in and changes the weather (especially rain), I will be MISERABLE for a day or two leading up to it. Extreme fatigue, headaches, sinus problems. Then as soon as the rain comes...instant relief.

We've been having a particularly dry spell, and I've been ALL out of sorts for two days. Sleeping all the time, sore throat, toothache, headache, lymph nodes so painfully swollen I was internally freaking out that I probably have lymphoma or something. Then all of a sudden tonight, I felt mostly fine. One side of my neck is still a little tender, but thats about it. I opened the door and realized it was raining.

Does anyone else suddenly find themselves ridiculously affected by the weather like this? And is there a way to harness this newfound power for good? 🤣

I'm 41, and I identify as demisexual (I don't experience spontaneous sexual attraction, and am not generally attracted to anyone unless I have an emotional connection), but I've ALWAYS been easily turned on by my partner of more than a decade. Just having him run his hands across my body or kiss me is usually enough to make me melt and get me in the mood.

Yesterday morning, I woke him up to have sex (we'd discussed that the night before because it was late and we were tired when he came to bed), and it was hard to get fully into it. He gave me oral sex and I orgasmed, but it wasn't easy to get there.

Then last night, even though I MENTALLY was really looking forward to having sex... I could not get in the mood. He was doing all the same things he normally does, and I was really trying, but he could tell I just wasn't really into it. I told him I didn't know what was wrong, and we just cuddled and went to sleep.

This morning, we both woke up around 5:30 and started trying to fool around. Normally, that kind of early-morning sex is super hot for us ... but once again, I just could NOT get into it. It was like his hands on my skin felt too rough, and I wanted to cringe away from him. We kept at it for a little while (I was trying to just fake my way through it, hoping I'd get more in the mood, and it was dark so he didnt notice as readily that I wasn't fully engaged). Eventually, I just encouraged him to jack off onto me so we could finish and go back to sleep.

Later in the morning, we woke up for real (we keep late hours and have odd jobs so we slept til 9:30) and that final time, I managed to get enough in the mood to have an orgasm once he went down on me. But I'm still sort of rattled by how VASTLY my libido changed, seemingly overnight. I have always been SO horny for this man. Like....can't get enough of him, making out like teenagers in the car levels of horny. To not only have my desire for him disappear like this, but actively NOT want his hands on me is WEIRD. I've never been able to get enough of him touching me.

Nothing has changed between us. No new outside stressors, just our regularly chaotic life together. The only thing that's changed at all is I started a new birth control pill about 6 weeks ago because my insurance suddenly wouldn't cover my old one. I went on birth control in the first place because of perimenopause symptoms. Is that really enough to cause this sudden, drastic change? Is it just perimenopause? We've been together through different birth control situations, including not being on any at all, and I've never once lost my desire for him like this.