u/Equivalent-Cat6725

So my boyfriend M22 and I F22, have been together for 1 year and a half now. He has this close female friend, F21, that he’s been friends with before we started dating. My bf has also told me she’s in a long distance relationship and has been with her partner for years. We are all in college, and they study the same major so that’s how they met. They also work together at our university. I’ve only met her twice when I visited his workplace. We had very brief interactions but she seemed nice and initially I didn’t feel jealous or uncomfortable with their friendship. But as time progressed I have felt more uncomfortable with their relationship. To start I don’t really know her that well, my bf says she’s very introverted and doesn’t like going out and she’s also not hung out him that much either. My bf is also very introverted himself and has stated that she is his closest friend. I trust my bf so I never was suspicious of their friendship, that is until he told me had given her rides before since she does not have a car. I was a bit uncomfortable with this but then we both talked about it and we agreed he would not give her rides anymore. But then he recently told me she had asked for a loan of 500$ to pay for part of the tuition and he had given it to her. And this is not the first time this happens. Last year, she had also asked for a loan for some immigration paperwork and he had given it to her. It was over 1000$. So this is a substantial amount of money, but my issue doesn’t necessarily pertain to just that. I can understand that he would empathize with her as an international student that comes from a lower income background. But I don’t feel comfortable with this situation at all and see it as a boundary being crossed. She has a boyfriend and other friends she could have asked for help in this matter, so why would she depend on my boyfriend to fix this problem for her. And since her boyfriend Iives in another country that makes me question whether she perceives my boyfriend as the one who should support her in his absence. That is what makes me uncomfortable with this matter, and it concerns me that in the future she will continue to depend on my boyfriend for her own benefit. We have talked about this issue and my boyfriend has told me he says her as a sister and only felt a moral obligation to help her. And I don’t want to be the toxic gf and I hate the fact I feel this way but I cannot deny my feelings of discomfort. How can I handle this situation?