“Rich” Family Trying to Marry Their Friend to a 19yo House Help They Barely Know , creepy or normal?
A really strange situation happened today and I genuinely can’t stop thinking about it.
We had a young cook working at our house whom we let go around 2 months back. She’s only 19 years old. Today, my current house help told me that in one of the flats where this cook now works, an elderly lady was asking around about her family, background, where she lives, etc.
The reason completely shocked me.
Apparently, the lady was looking at her as a marriage prospect for her son’s friend. She was saying things like “the boy earns in lakhs” and can give her a very good lifestyle.
What makes this feel extremely uncomfortable to me is that they literally know NOTHING about this girl except that she’s pretty. There’s a huge difference in education, financial status, lifestyle, social circle, everything. Why would some random well-off family suddenly want to marry off their friend to a teenage house help they barely know?
Maybe I’m overthinking, but it honestly feels suspicious and predatory. The whole thing gives me very weird vibes. Especially because the elderly lady’s own son apparently had a failed marriage and now keeps bringing random girls home, so naturally it makes me question the kind of company and mindset around them.
I know adults can marry whoever they want, but something about older people scouting a 19-year-old working-class girl mainly because she’s “pretty” feels deeply unsettling to me. It feels less like a genuine marriage proposal and more like they see her as vulnerable and easy to influence with money and promises of a “better lifestyle.”
Am I wrong for finding this concerning?
P.S. I’ve already asked my current house help to quietly tell the girl that if she ever feels uncomfortable, pressured, or coerced in any way, she should leave that job immediately. She’s very young and may not fully understand the intentions behind all this yet, especially when someone is dangling money and the promise of a “better lifestyle” in front of her. I just hope someone explains things to her properly and looks out for her.