Am I the problem?
I'm just feeling so disconnected and disappointed. I went to an event for LGBT for the first time in years. It was a plant identification walk about local edible/ useful plants along the river and prairie. I knew it was an inclusive event. Where I was disappointed was within 5 min of arriving one of the mtf yelled out how much they love lesbians and was staring at me. It made me so fucking uncomfortable I made a comment about how that was creepy and walked away to not engage further.
Clearly this person participated in these events regularly because everyone seemed offended by me calling their comment creepy. I just want to go places without having to deal with this and then be made to feel like I'm the problem.
I think I might just be stuck going out on my own which sucks because I just wanted to talk about plants with people who also love plants...
Edit to add: since people think I'm young or making it up for whatever reason. I'm 39 and have been out since I was 16. I've been married to my wife since 2021.
I have dealt with people being gross my whole life. I work in a very male dominated field and came from a smell community where being gay was a big deal.
I'm no stranger to being ostracized or catcalled and have zero problems with telling men when I don't like their behavior. So I'm not someone who is quiet when someone does something gross regardless of gender. I was surprised that I was the only person to say anything but I guess I shouldn't be.
I was trying to find a like minded community and unfortunately that's not what I found. I'll just go back to what I was doing before and utilize foraging books for plant identification.