PTSD from alcohol; can I ask my partner to quit?
Long story short; I grew up with an alcoholic father who tried to kill me, shave my hair (I was 13F) and cheated on my mom regularly. I'm now 27 with a very supportive partner in every way, however, he is touchy when he drinks and has crossed boundaries. I have always had bad anxiety when people drink around me but most recently my partner was touchy with a woman in front of me when he was drunk and the pain and flashbacks were so bad I wanted to die. Another time he was very drunk and on his way home he walked into a strip club and told me about it the next morning. I told my partner how anxious I am and he quit alcohol for a while and promised to never drink in excess but he just gets impulsive as soon as he has the first drink and so he broke the promise. He hasn't really drank much but if there's a party he will be black out drunk. For reference he's 31. This past month I was applying for new jobs and was under a lot of stress so he told me that he will not drink this month; but he did. I feel super anxious, in pain, and so I asked him to quit alcohol for good and he said that it is an unfair ask. I am at the moment still in fight or flight mode and would appreciate people's honest opinion: Is it my right to ask him to quit? If not, how do I solve this? I feel like I will die alone from my PTSD.