Why After 16 Years… Now Suddenly This?
Hey fellow sex lovers,
I’ve got this slightly weird feeling in my stomach and I honestly don’t know if I’m overthinking it or not.
I’ve been with my partner for almost 16 years. We have 3 kids together, a house, a dog — the full long-term relationship package. Like everyone else, we’ve had ups and downs, but right now we’re genuinely in such a good place — especially sexually. Lately we’ve started exploring new things together that neither of us had tried before, and it’s honestly been amazing.
But then this happened…
The other day during sex, he was really trying hard with his fingers to make me squirt. Super hot, super intimate, and I loved it even though it didn’t happen.
The weird feeling comes from the fact that I KNOW his ex before me (17 years ago) could squirt. There’s no jealousy at all, but I can’t stop thinking: why now? He has literally never done anything like that with me in 15+ years… and suddenly now he wants to?
I tried gently asking him what made him want to do it now, but he shut the conversation down pretty quickly. And honestly, that just made my thoughts spiral even more.
So tell me honestly — am I massively overthinking this, or is it actually kind of weird?
And just to be clear: our relationship is genuinely really good and there’s zero jealousy here. I just can’t shake the feeling that it’s strange for this to suddenly appear out of nowhere after so many years together and a LOT of sex.
EDIT;
I can see now that I accidentally made this way too much about his ex, when honestly, it really isn’t about her at all.
It’s more the fact that I know my husband thought squirting was insanely hot 17 years ago… and then he’s basically had every opportunity since to try it with me, but apparently never wanted to — until suddenly now, out of nowhere, he does?
That’s the part that feels strange to me.
We’re normally extremely open when it comes to sex. We talk openly about past experiences, old hookups, mention names, laugh about who we’ve both slept with back in the day — it’s honestly funny and completely relaxed between us.
But this specific thing? He suddenly doesn’t want to talk about it at all. And that’s what feels really weird to me.
We’re from the same hometown, and it’s honestly not unusual for one of us to run into someone at the local supermarket that either he or I slept with years ago. We always laugh about it together and there’s never any tension around it.
So it’s not jealousy. It’s more that this sudden shutdown around this one topic is what’s giving me that weird feeling in my stomach.