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Do you like a lot of tongue, no tongue? Wet or very wet? Soft or hard pressure? I want to learn how to do better

I am 18 and virgin and my penis measures are 16cm thick and 17.5cm long I need help...

Hey fellow sex lovers,

I’ve got this slightly weird feeling in my stomach and I honestly don’t know if I’m overthinking it or not.

I’ve been with my partner for almost 16 years. We have 3 kids together, a house, a dog — the full long-term relationship package. Like everyone else, we’ve had ups and downs, but right now we’re genuinely in such a good place — especially sexually. Lately we’ve started exploring new things together that neither of us had tried before, and it’s honestly been amazing.

But then this happened…
The other day during sex, he was really trying hard with his fingers to make me squirt. Super hot, super intimate, and I loved it even though it didn’t happen.

The weird feeling comes from the fact that I KNOW his ex before me (17 years ago) could squirt. There’s no jealousy at all, but I can’t stop thinking: why now? He has literally never done anything like that with me in 15+ years… and suddenly now he wants to?

I tried gently asking him what made him want to do it now, but he shut the conversation down pretty quickly. And honestly, that just made my thoughts spiral even more.
So tell me honestly — am I massively overthinking this, or is it actually kind of weird?

And just to be clear: our relationship is genuinely really good and there’s zero jealousy here. I just can’t shake the feeling that it’s strange for this to suddenly appear out of nowhere after so many years together and a LOT of sex.

EDIT;

I can see now that I accidentally made this way too much about his ex, when honestly, it really isn’t about her at all.

It’s more the fact that I know my husband thought squirting was insanely hot 17 years ago… and then he’s basically had every opportunity since to try it with me, but apparently never wanted to — until suddenly now, out of nowhere, he does?

That’s the part that feels strange to me.

We’re normally extremely open when it comes to sex. We talk openly about past experiences, old hookups, mention names, laugh about who we’ve both slept with back in the day — it’s honestly funny and completely relaxed between us.

But this specific thing? He suddenly doesn’t want to talk about it at all. And that’s what feels really weird to me.

We’re from the same hometown, and it’s honestly not unusual for one of us to run into someone at the local supermarket that either he or I slept with years ago. We always laugh about it together and there’s never any tension around it.

So it’s not jealousy. It’s more that this sudden shutdown around this one topic is what’s giving me that weird feeling in my stomach.

Im about to get head for the first time in a day or 2 and idk what to do like im just nervous she's already seen jt before but idk in just scared. Any tips for me?

my girlfriend and i are both trans, her being mtf and me ftm. im the only one whos had hrt.

when we have sex i usually bottom. i love our sub/dom dynamic. the other day she surprised me and switched it up. she was still being dominant the whole time, but she was riding me instead. we were clothed and grinding on each other for most of it. once she took our clothes off and we were touching skin on skin after all that buildup and her moving and talking to me the way she does, i came harder than i think i ever have before. I usually struggle a bit to orgasm from sex and ive never been able to get myself to cum from vaginal stimulation just clitoral. but after i came from that, its like i couldnt stop. we finished up and she went to put her clothes back on, but right before she did she said something to tease me. i came almost immediately, completely untouched. and it didnt feel like how they usually do for me, the feeling wasnt in my clit at all. we were both pretty surprised. she started touching me again and barely even stuck her finger in me and i came again. that has never happened before.

i wont get into too much detail about what else we did but even after we stopped this continued for HOURS. i woke up the next day and it was still happening, but it stopped around noon thank god. during that time tho if she said anything i thought was hot? all of a sudden im cumming again. thinking about sex, even for just a moment? cumming again.

ive never had anything like this happen to me before. i have no idea why and im even more confused why it lasted so long. does anyone have any idea? i definitely want to do that with her again but im a bit worried that part will happen again. its fun but i dont really have time to cum over and over for 12 hours.

Been giving about 3-4 bjs per day and I basically can’t talk. Sounds like I lost my voice completely. Any advice on this? Things to eat maybe or techniques to reduce the impact.

It’s just annoying cuz I don’t know what to say to people at work

I asked my boyfriend to tell me his absolute most pervy fantasy for us to play and he said this.

He said, he wanted to jerk off/get a handjob from me, while browsing pics of other hot girls. While browsing the pics he’d comment what he liked about each girl, or what was deficient - ranging from face to body. And the kind of sexual vibe the girl gives off, etc. he said it’s a fantasy cuz 1. He gets to fantasize about girls 2. He gets to tell me/someone his dirtiest thoughts about them which makes the fantasy feel “real”. These are models/famous actresses etc btw. Not anyone we know personally. I’m having some mixed thoughts.

Btw, there is of cos no pressure from his end and I was the one who told him to tell me his darkest inner fantasy.

What do u all think? Btw - I know the standard answer is “whatever I’m comfortable with” and all and I know that. But I’m curious what ppl think about this specific fantasy. Is it a thing w guys? Or way too weird

So me and my partner were having sex and she was on top and bouncing, but after we finished I noticed my condom was gone. Only to realize that it was inside my girlfriend she got really worried and scared that this might happen again, and I'm not sure if it was because of what we were doing or maybe the condom is too small? Any advice?

Update: here's more info cause I didn't realize there was that many factors my bad

1. The condom didn't break, it's almost like it pulled off by her when she got off

2. I use the trojan ultra thin's and it's a lil tight but I thought that was normal but also it doesn't go down the whole way but most most the way

How should I ask my aunt if I can fuck her? She is a beautiful 53-year-old milf. I once saw her ass in the sauna and it was extremely good. A few times she had such sexual allusions as a prank. That, for example, she sticks out her chest and says "take it" (there were other people around) or that she has nicer breasts than another girl (she said that directly to me when she wore a dress with a neckline)

I'm in a long-distance relationship with a guy. We send each other sexts and pics on Snap. I'd like to buy a sex toy with remote control via an app so he can control it while I'm using it. I'm wondering if anyone has tried this before? Is it exciting for a guy to do it, or is it just my imagination? I think it could be fun to do it together in a voice chat with some dirty talk. I'm not great at dirty talk but I'd like to try. Share your experience with me!

My last tip went down pretty well here so here's another �� I used to dread period sex because of the mess and would always stick to just giving head, but then I tried using a soft menstrual disc instead of a cup. It sits differently so there's basically no leaking even in missionary or doggy. My boyfriend was hesitant at first but once he realized it was clean he actually got into going down on me too which felt amazing. Now we don't have to pause or put towels everywhere every time and I get to enjoy being touched during that week instead of avoiding it. Way more relaxing for both of us honestly.

My boyfriend (21M) wants me (21F) to give him oral, he did it to me once, and I absolutely loved it. But fair is fair and he really, really wants me to do it to him. Thing is, I was a virgin before him, and I was abused multiple times by my ex boyfriend. So I have no ideas how am I supposed to give him a blowjob ? I want to, but I feel a bit…humiliated, weird about it. I’m also scared of the taste or the sensation in my mouth. I want to try it, and he asks me for it every single time we have sex (even though he doesn’t pressure me), and I really want to give that to him. But I’m kinda craving some advice on how to overcome that ?

I know that a girl of mine likes it that way but i have no idea how to do it and obviously there’s no tutorial for it (right?)
Does someone have experience with this?

I've never been in this position I'm wondering. What do you say?

i, F, have recently started seeing someone. we had sex a couple weeks ago(ish) and he tried to go down on me, but i said no bc i was nervous about not being “up to par”. i just really like him and i’m so worried ab tasting bad. i don’t wanna embarrass myself.

any tips on how u, personally, got over this feeling or something to help ease my mind? anything helps! i dont see him again for another week and a half, so i have time to prepare lol.

[imagine i do all this worrying and when time comes and i let him do it, he isn’t even good 😭 hope that isn’t the case.]

I know a female friend who says, it is impossible for her to swallow a load completely. There are always drops escaping to the side or sometimes she gags, cause the first shot hits her at a reflex area. So just wondering...

Can men actually smell when a woman is aroused or is that like an old wives tale? I see it written in books all the time and I was wondering if it was real or not.

Not really my ideal way of asking for help but my friends aren’t really the type i can go to for stuff like this soooo here i am.

I’ve been seeing this guy, and our sex life is awesome like 99% of the time with the one hiccup being when i give him head. Don’t get me wrong, i love doing it, i jump on the opportunity to do it, but he says he can feel my teeth.

He never really outwardly expressed this issue until a month or so ago, and it kinda hit me hard because he’s the first person i’ve been with to tell me that he wasn’t enjoying himself, and i also felt like maybe he was faking enjoying it up until now. He asked me if i could feel my teeth scraping and i can’t. When I’m in the middle of it and he mentions my teeth, I’ve been thinking that I’ve kept them out of the way.

We talked about it again this morning and he said that “there’s a level of softness and warmth that should come with a blow job that i feel like is missing”…. which is now why i’m here.

I don’t really know what I’m doing wrong, if he’s feeling teeth, then he’s feeling teeth, but i’m opening my jaw as far as i can while still trying to keep my lips wrapped around him, i’ve tried curling my lips over my teeth but he said that doesn’t help. I went and bought some of those mints that’s supposed to make your mouth water extra, thinking maybe if there was more saliva that might help too, but he just pushes me off after a bit. I can tell he’s frustrated and i’m feeling more and more defeated, and i worry if it continues it’s going to start causing problems in the rest of our sex life.

TLDR: i worry my head is trash- can someone give me the “for dummies” explanation on how I’m supposed to be giving a blow job?

Hi! So, my bf and I tried to have sex for the first time recently. We are both virgins. And let's say it wasn't an easy experience... It hurt so bad whenever he tried to enter me. We tried several times but mostly stopped because I couldn't bare the pain. One time it worked. He entered and we had sex. It wasn't so pleasant but it didn't hurt, but when we tried again several days later it was still so painful like at the beggining so we stopped. I even started bleeding. What can I do?

So I’m a giver it’s in my nature. To put it simply I used to not have a gag reflex but now I can’t stand to have my fiancé hit the back of my throat more than once before I want to throw up. No he doesn’t smell, I do it on an empty stomach and on my knees and even laying on my belly and yet the same problem. I literally crave to be better at going down on him.