r/sextips

I am a bit too loud in bed and i wonder if it makes them cringe feeling 💀

So for context im a lil around 6.5x5.5 in size, i try drilling with their legs on my shoulders for around 20-25 mins till my legs hurt.

The earlier 2 hookups i had, one felt pain, the other started moaning like hell (said it was her best sex).

So i am confused, is it something i should move ahead with or stop?

The title. One of my biggest fears in dating is having this happening with a guy I really like. It’s happened quite a few times to a promiscuous friend of mine with men she has dated — she told me she’d been kicked out after sex several times or the dynamic promptly ending with one guy even telling her straight up that “he can’t develop feelings for a woman he’s slept with early on,” etc. I’m wondering if you’ve noticed in your own experience if there’s a way to prevent it, and also if you are able to tell whether you’re going to get it with a girl versus whether you genuinely like her (regardless of if you sleep together).

Is the main way just to not have sex with a guy you like until he commits to a relationship with you?

Do you think being a virgin automatically means someone will be bad at sex the first time? Or do you think sexual confidence and compatibility matter more than experience? And if someone has never had sex before, is there actually a healthy way to prepare or “practice” beforehand, or is it something you can only really learn through experience with a partner?

I want to give him to best O, what’s the best buildup and finish. I know we are all different humans but what is your way?

Please don’t say be enthusiastic. Besides that. Some small details maybe etc that makes it much better
I want to be absolutely amazing at it

So I’m around 5x4 and I’ve never had sex I’ve done things with girls ofc I’ve just been scared to have sex because I don’t think I could please anyone with my size and I’ve recently started talking to this girl and I like her a lot and we’ve been on a couple dates and done some things and I wanna move forward with having sex I’m just scared I’m gonna suck at it

So I have never rly been good with controlling the muscles. I can hold piss in, but I can't stop piss in the middle of pissing. I can't relax the muscles. Sex is so painful and sore. Feels like sandpaper having anything in me even w lotsss of lube.

I had Vulvodynia before but it's cured and now I just have inner pain.:( Idk how to get rid of it, pelvic floor therapy didn't help me control the muscles I just don't get it??? And doctors don't find anything wrong other than slight irritation.

First of all, I love and respect my girlfriend.

My girlfriend and I (both 21) have been dating for 2 months and have known each other for 7 months; we’ve had a really nice relationship so far—everything’s been perfect… Here’s some background before I go into more detail: before me, she’d only been in one relationship (a long-distance one), and she was only intimate with that person a couple of times. As she and I got to know each other and became attracted to one another, we started having sex, but there was something a little peculiar to me here: she’s uncomfortable with me touching her intimate area with my fingers; she only likes penetration, oral sex, caresses, kisses, different positions, etc. I respect her, and I’ve come to understand that part, but there’s more: she’s never had an orgasm, she doesn’t like to masturbate, and she rarely performs oral sex on me or touches my penis… As for the issue of orgasms: she’s often been on the verge of having one, but she stops me, telling me she thinks she’s going to pee, that she’s embarrassed, or that she doesn’t feel ready. On several occasions, I’ve told her, “Honey, it’s completely natural, and you shouldn’t feel embarrassed with me—I promise you’ll like it if you relax…” But she says no (obviously, I say this as a comment, not to pressure her, but so she knows that what she’s feeling isn’t bad). Even so, I ask her if she’s satisfied with just penetration, and she says yes, and I believe her, but I’d like her to let herself go further.

Also, regarding masturbation: I’ve brought up the topic with her, and she tells me that touching herself simply “doesn’t appeal to her”—she doesn’t want to—but she’s given me the go-ahead on the idea of buying and trying out a vibrator or some other sex toy for her pleasure. I’ve started to wonder about this, since I thought that given how long we’ve been together, it would be something that would change gradually, but so far she remains in the same position. I understand her and don’t want to pressure her, but I’d like to know what might be causing her to feel this way—whether I should let time take its course, give her more time to prepare, let her get to know her own body, or perhaps recommend sex therapy.

Finally, I want to make it clear that I’m here to support her without turning my desire into pressure.

I’m writing this to get some advice—if there’s a woman or couple who’s been through something like this, or someone who knows a bit more about the subject. Thank you very much.

I've never had sex, but I've heard this "I'll fuck you so good, you won't be able to walk" thing in films/books/fanfics. Is it real or is it just a trope that doesn't exist in real life? And if it's real, how does it work? Do the legs hurt, or what?

Hi there! I loooove giving head. So much. There's this guy ive been talking to and I am like so very excited to show off my bj skills ngl I'm pretty good at it 😈 anyway my only area is want to improve on is deep throating. I can go pretty darn deep and for a whole and have pretty good control. But I just feel like I could be even better. Like, I see these girls on insta thirst trapping and shoving like bottles down their throats! How the heckkkkk do they get that good? And like no gag and puke? Id loooove all the tips you guys have and any good articles too. Ive been reading up on it but wanted to check here too thank youuuuuuuuuuu!

I need tips on giving a bj.

Im meeting this cute guy off tinder. We are going to watch a movie at my house, but our talking is suuuper sexy and freaky

I’ve decided to try and suck his dick. I’ve never tried but I’m so excited to do it

The things is that I’ve already seen a pic of it and he got a big cock…

I really don’t want to be bad at sucking him off because I like him and don’t want to give him a bad experience

Does anyone have some usefull tips for me?

(He is uncut too and mentioned he likes his balls being licked too) sorry if I’m being too graphic🫶🏻

What’s your favorite way to make a man cum and give him the best O of his life?

How can I orgasm from internal stimulation only?

My bf and I tried and I squirted which I havent really done before.

I felt like I was gonna orgasm but I couldn't quite get over the line. We tried different methods but it was like one long ass edge!

Any advice to actually be able to finish this way?

Note- I did it once myself years ago so I know I can but I havent been able to since
Also for reference, its a relatively new relationship but i feel comfortable and we try new things etc

I’m a 31M and would love to hear women’s perspectives on what actually makes a partner great in bed. I’m looking for specific preferences rather than just “more foreplay” or “communicate.”

For example:
• **Foreplay:** What kinds of foreplay do you enjoy most (besides oral), and roughly how long do you prefer it before intercourse?
• **Touching:** Where do you particularly like being touched or caressed? Are there places you wish men paid more attention to?
• **Kissing:** Where do you enjoy being kissed besides the lips? Neck, shoulders, back, stomach, etc.? Slow/soft vs. more passionate?
• **During sex:** Do you like your partner continuing to kiss and touch you during penetration, or do you sometimes prefer less stimulation?
• **Positions:** Which positions tend to feel best for you, and what can a guy do during them to make them better? For example, during rear-entry positions, do you enjoy being held, kissed on the back/neck, or having your body touched?
• **Overall:** What are 3–5 specific things a man has done during sex that made you think, “Wow, he really knows what he’s doing”?

Obviously everyone is different—I’m just curious which answers come up repeatedly.

When my bf and I have sex I have only cummed once in the 4 years we’ve been together… I don’t know if it’s me if it’s something wrong with me. I love the feeling of penetration. But I don’t know if it’s just to quick and I can’t cum because of it or…I don’t know.
I can cum with myself. But never with sex. I have had to fake a lot of o’s because of it.
Is it something I’m doing wrong.? Is there anyway to fix it?

During my handful of sexual experiences in the far past, i think i adapted to fake my pleasure and reactions based on what i thought it should be.

How do I be a good bottom during sex? I don’t want to end up silent and stiff while im processing everything. It’s been over a year of no sex, I’m not experienced.