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How to convince my gf for BJ?

She has given me BJ 2-3 times around 6-7 months ago and she is not giving me BJ’s even if i ask her very politely !

whenever i have sex i do enjoy it a lot and have fun in the moment but afterwards i always feel horrible. its hard to describe but almost like disgusted, shameful, or like i want to hide away forever. it doesnt matter if its kinky or vanilla or who its with the feeling is always there for a day or sometimes much longer.

its gotten to the point i dont really want to do it anymore and that makes me sad. what can i do to get this icky feeling away from me?

I'm genuinely surprised it took me decades to figure this out, but it works like a charm - even if your necklace doesn't have one! In the event you haven't already discovered this simple "blow job hack", I'm sharing with the hopes of enhancing your oral mastery.

For any of you fellow fellatio artists out there, we run into a few obstacles while working on our masterpiece. Your hair has to be held back - nobody likes strands of hair in their mouth when focusing on technique! - and, for me at least, my necklace and charm kept wanting to interfere with my performance. I've tried tucking it into my hair (totally unreliable), or, taking the time to take it off, find a special place to set it, try to remember not to forget it, etc. Tedious interruptions when all I want to do is passionately focus on my "job". Out of the blue the other night, however, it simply came to me (pun intended). I pulled one side of my necklace up and tucked it over the top of my ear, and, VOILA! Interruption issues disappeared, and we could both remain happily invested in the culmination of greatness!

For all of you who were already privy to this little trick - I wish I'd been clued in years ago! For any who weren't, I hope this helps you to bypass further obstacles during your pursuit of oral magnificence.

Wishing you many splendid suckcesses ahead... or, more appropriately, of head!

Hi there I'm 29F recently single from my 30M ex fiance and looking to try my first gangbang. I've never done anything like this before and was hoping to get advice or tips from others who have done it, thank you!

Hey guys 20F i was wondering if u guys new anything about this. All my past partners or links have rlly liked my stomach like it’s not huge but it’s here they love kissing it and grabbing it. is the stomach a new thing??

I'm a straight black male I love cuddling being big spoon especially if a woman has🍑 and teases i like rubbing my piece between her butt or her thigh or let it run all the way to the front from behind to meet the tease in pjs or underwear ..I think it's a good way for learning the females touch especially if she climaxes off it a lot ..... My question is do lady's love to just have grind sessions still without penetration or is it only good for foreplay ?

Have you guys tried the lift & Carry position. and do you have any tips.

I am pretty average and was unfortunately exposed to internet porn at a young age and it messed up my mental image of myself.

I haven’t watched porn in six years, refrain from seeing any sort of celebrity leaks or sex tapes, and have been in therapy for two years. I still can’t shake the feeling of inadequacy.

I just started a new relationship about a month ago and I try to not ask any details that I don’t want to know, but unfortunately this came up before there was a good time for me to say I didn’t want to know.

My girlfriend has a bit of a past and her most recent hookup was 8 inches and he’s the only one she’s hooked up with multiple times. The rest of them were around my size. We were texting about this so I didn’t know she was going to say this or I would’ve stopped her and told her I didn’t want to know.

I told her after that I don’t really want to know any more (worded better obviously) and that her past isn’t a concern to me, that all that matters to me is her and I. She was very reassuring and comforting and it solidified my feelings for her, but not in myself.

Unfortunately all I have felt the last two weeks since we had this conversation is self loathing and like I’m inadequate.

How do I stop feeling like this so it doesn’t affect my relationship and sex life besides refraining from porn, not asking about her past, and therapy (since I already do these)?

My partner has a good girl kink and that's great but I really am struggling to find ways to entertain it. I can't keep just saying "good girl" it's awkward for me. Any tips!!? Any of you girls good? 🤣

so my boyfriend loves getting me dressed up and picking out teeny tiny outfits

in all my prior relationships, turtle necks and full length shirts were required otherwise id get accused of wanting to cheat and get the silent treatment

so this is a very nice change and i really do love getting dressed up all pretty for him to show off

but i guess i dont understand why? and where else this could go?

is there any other men or women who have this dynamic? what other things can be done in line with this dynamic?

i do have something similar i think, i enjoy picking out outfits for him that get attention from women and i do like seeing women stare at him, im unsure as to why because it also brews jealousy, but i usually just take him home and take it out on him (in the best way lol)

i guess im just curious about this whole dynamic and he is too, so we just wanted advice from anyone else with similar inclinations or interests! thanks in advance!

Idk if anyone remembers me but I asked a few nights ago why I’m the only one initiating sex with my husband/explaining I feel rejected. He’s always keen for sex when I initiate, but I have to initiate every time.

Most of you said to talk to him, so I talked to him tonight and he had no response. I said to him “is there anyway I can make it more clear sometimes that I’m keen and I’d like you to initiate?” And he was silent. I said “nothing to say?” He said “no, I don’t know what to say.”

So talking isn’t working. Reddit please I need your help, why isn’t my husband initiating sex? But he’s always keen when I initiate (2-3 times a week). What am I supposed to do now? Be the only one who ever initiates or suffer?

I usually take a pause to clean up before getting intimate and thought that was a normal thing to do, but i recently started seeing a girl who wont let me as it "ruins the flow", and she'll only agree to get in the shower after we're done. Sucks to be me bc i have a lot of excess foreskin so i tend to get buildup under the skin quite easily, which means that without my chance to get clean she often gets turned off when going down on me. Honestly when i eat her out she doesnt smell great either but i still do it? How do yall work in a freshening up stage without killing the mood?

My wife and I have been together for 5yrs. In that time our sex has been great (if I say so myself) but that was because we were freer and staying together. Now, we live miles apart, have extremely tiresome jobs and only see each other one day a week due to scheduling.

Recently exhaustion has gotten the better of us and our sex has started going downhill. She loves the feeling of head but fears it because of infections. (That’s kind of off the table) … nudes are also out of the picture for both of us due to extreme paranoia.

What else can we do? Foreplay feels predictable and exhaustion is a constant.

Hi! I’m meeting up with a FwB this week and she told me she wants me to talk about her pussy as if it was mine. She wants me to be very possessive.
Any tips would be greatly appreciated!

me and my girlfriend have been together for a few months now. we decided to have sex for the first time next week. im scared i wont even get an erection let alone last long or maintain one. any advice? i feel like this also messes with my erections right now since they arent even as strong as before

Do you guys have any freaky ideas on what one could do during sex? Almost no taboo's in my relationship, so there are a lot of opportunities. Like, we have already tried the more common stuff, so, maybe you have some more ideas

what is the most closest thing to expernice sex in real life without an actul partner? I’m a virgin and have no partner of gf and I want to experience the most closest thing to real life sex with a girl right in front of me

So I (18M) wanted to try anal, and my gf (18F) agreed, but she's scared, and we tried already once, but we didnt get very far. I inserted an anal plug, and tried penetration after that, taking things incredibly slow. She got nervouse and asked to stop, so we did. I want to try it, and I told her that we dont HAVE to if shes uncomfortable, but she insists on trying it if I want to. I just want to make her comfortable and make sure im not hurting her. I already know to take it slow and use lots of lube, but what else can I do? Certain techniques? Certain toys? Certain positions?

And we've hit a very dry sexual spell. We haven't been getting along and sex hasn't even a subject that I would approach. I've always had issues with asking for it, especially when she's seems angry all the time. But we've been getting along alot better lately and I was wondering what would be a good way to approach her about sex. Its been so long it feels weird

okay, ive found a couple of hacks but im trying to find one that works well in the moment. how do i take care of a gag reflex? it would be so embarrassing to throw up while giving yk. normally i dont gag like that but i definitely do at this point in time