u/Equivalent-Wind-3568

I have a three year old going to be four in June. I’m not with her mother and we have every other day and weekends. We have a routine when going to bed I rub her back till she falls asleep. A few days ago before bed I was rubbing her back but then she grabbed my hand and said no rub it here. It was her crotch. It startled me and I pulled back. I asked her again where did she want me to rub? She grabbed my hand again and put it back down to her crotch again. I asked her who does that and she gave the name of my ex’s boyfriend son (9 years old). I pulled my hand back and asked her again who does that? She gave me the same name again. I told her the only people that should be doing that is her mom or daddy or a doctor. I waited till the next day to tell my ex in person and she said she’d have a talk with her about. When she was asked about it by her mom and her new boyfriend my daughter said no he didn’t touch her. My daughter does come up with some off the wall stuff from time to time but the way she grabbed my hand and forced it to her crotch really scared me. I asked 12 of my best friends that there opinions really mean a lot to me and my mom is the only one that said we shouldn’t take her to the pediatrician. My mom said the state would get involved and this might start some type of beef with my ex’s new boyfriend. I’m very scared right now and don’t know what to do.