About 8 months ago i was deep in this community. Posting 1-3x daily, looking for any solace or semblance of comfort and resonance.
Heartbroken, sick, anxiety ridden, depressed, obsessed, and utterly distraught. I was a shell of myself.
I left 2.5 months ago and the joy and happiness that radiates from me now, I only regret not leaving sooner. Of course, the beginning is tough, leaning into detachment is never comfortable.
For anyone skeptical of leaving, please listen when I say- the change is night and day. The amount of grief you endure short term, will lead to long term bliss.
It never got better, i saw the red flags a few months in. Had hope, and it absolutely destroyed me. I no longer have the ruminating thoughts. Crying myself to sleep. Constant jealousy and comparison. I feel alive again, not realizing the only person i was hurting was myself when I stayed.
Breakup tip: keep yourself BUSY. Friends, family, work, hobbies. Dive into everything. Cry it out, but give yourself an allotted time per day, and carry on. We should never dim our light when our PA’s can’t even step foot in the sun. Let them live in their denial, plant your roots, and begin to grow again ♥️
I pray this provides some hope into anyone second guessing themselves. I promise, you’ll be more than okay. Love yourself, or no one else will.