AITA for thinking a tallied chore chart is juvenile, petty, and competitive?
I (23F) live with two other girls (23F) in a 3 bedroom apartment. One of my roommates (let's call her K) created a chore chart with a tally system where we mark down every time we do something for the apartment: wiping counter tops, tiding up living room, vacuuming the living room.
The issue started when K asked in our group chat whether the dishes section meant doing your own dishes within 24 hours. When I confirmed it was about your own dishes, she tried to petition that it should count when you do other people's dishes only, essentially wanting credit for extra contributions although she barely does her own.
I pushed back saying the tally system feels like petty scorekeeping and creates a competitive dynamic rather than just being good roommates and doesn’t account for if people are home more often than others. I suggested direct communication. if someone's dishes are sitting there, just ask them about it directly.
Here's where it gets complicated. I found out months ago that K had been talking to our friends about me and my contributions AND to the guy we both have a crush on (and he mentioned it to me). She admitted to this, and we talked it through.
She then that she feels like I have a problem with HER when in reality it seems like SHE has a problem with ME. And when i used that as evidence for my argument she says “Respectfully, bringing up comments you’ve heard from other people that I have no knowledge about does imply that you have an issue with me, or else you would not have said anything.“
Also, she was the biggest contributor to our dish problem at our old place, yet says she cleaned up the most bc she doesn’t upkeep, just doesn’t do anything and does a big clean after some time.
AITA?