[56] Mother & [76] Grandmother moved in with me [27] daughter and my husband and 2 kids. Feeling suffocated.
To give context, my parents are not together and haven't been together for about 18 years. After my dad, my mother was with this new guy for 15 years. The new guy we'll call him Tom, he never did anything to help my mother. Tom was usually unemployed and she did all the working to support their household. Tom was extremely disrespectful to me and my siblings even to my mom and despite our efforts to tell her to move on she never wanted to leave him.. until recently. Due to him cheating on her she finally left him in November 2025 and she came and moved in with me. She also brings along my 76 year old grandmother because she is her caretaker. I am a stay-at-home mom and my husband [33] works all week Monday-Friday. My mother works 4-5 day out of the week her schedule varies, usually 30 hours a week of work. Her expectation is to be here to help with the kids but i still do majority if not all of the responsibility for the kids during the day. I have two kids one is 11 months old and the other is 2 years old. We live in a 2 bedroom apartment and we gave my mother and grandmother our 2nd bedroom for them to have their own space. I have begun feeling very overwhelmed and overstimulated by all the commotion. My husband also feels the same way. I'm not sure what to do without coming off cold hearted and rude. My mom is not an easy person to talk to because she takes everything personally. Am I being insensitive to her situation?