u/Equivalent_Ad_6139

I'm getting increasingly more upset living with my mother while living as an AuDHDer. I keep telling my mom to remind me of events as an extra. In case my notes and reminders are wrong, in case I need the extra reminder. I'm not the type of person to be upset about constant reminders to do things when it comes to living day to day. It helps alongside my medication and note taking. This time, I was sick for 2 weeks in isolation, didn't attend classes in person and barely chatted online. I didn't take any of my ADHD meds while sick, as the dehydration would make me feel worse. I consulted my doctor and she gave me the ok beforehand. I just got done being sick and I was invited to go to the beach with my mom and my siblings. Never told me a time, just that we're leaving early. I wake up today where no one is in the house. It was 9:30am. No knock on my door, no extra text messages, nothing indicating a reminder of the event. I call my mom and she tried gaslit me into thinking I needed to wake up at 8 am, but when I showed her our camera footage for the house, she got quiet then said, "You're 22, you're an adult. You don't need reminders and you can't keep using ADHD as an excuse" essentially said. I flip the hell out and tell her she's being essentially ableist and that I need an extra reminder as my brain chemistry is literally built to not do such task. I'm sick of being told to my ADHD is not an excuse.