Hey, I’m a muslim guy living in Europe, i met a 20 yo Indonesian girl on a dating app with a real intention for this relationship to end in marriage. she told me that she prays and wears hijab, moreover, she introduced me to her mother as her BF and her mother didn’t really like that but she felt good about me and eventually gave her the permission to talk to me.
Everything about her looked perfect, Until i found a secret TikTok account of her two months later. Long story short, the girl was using her tiktok account to attract guys, sell nudity, and to have sex for money. During our time together she slept at least with two guys including her manager at work who is at least 30 years older than her.
When i talked to her she kept lying about that until i showed her the clues i have then she had to admitted it all.
She kept crying and apologizing and i felt bad about her I told her that this is the end between us, and that i will forgive her for the damage and pain she caused to me but she should promise me that she will stop doing that. I explained to her that her self respect is more valuable than money and that the ppl she sleeps with have family and children and she should stop if not for her own good then for the sake of these ppl and the society in general. She promised me and then we said good bye to each other.
I’m know kind of traumatized if that experience, i feel horrible whenever I see an Asian girl, think about sex, or hear about cheating stories. I was so kind to her until the last moment despite everything caused i thought i might be the reason that she changes.
However, after weeks she shared posts on her TikTok showing that she got back to same activities. And that makes me feel worse, i really don’t want to cause any harm to her but i need someone to seriously warn her to stop playing with people like me and like the families of the guys she sleeps with. Because i know Indonesia is a muslim country and that the society don’t accept this kind of actions.