u/Equivalent_Exit791

Hey everyone, this is my first post. I got redit specifically looking for people who also just have/want one child. I would love some advice on how to handle upset family plus to get everything off my chest. Now here is my past 4 years. Husband and I lived in a cheap rental that was so cheap because we had agreed to fix it up using our money for the owner. That winter 4 months pregnant with with temps expected to be -45 F, the lights started flickering and then there was an explosion and everything went dark. We heard the walls sizzling and my husband quickly stop power to the house. A mouse crawled into the heater and ate the wires. Due to the old electrical the outdoor fuse box exploded and all the wires in the wall burned up, it was amazing the house didn't burn also. With no heat I covered all the windows and doors with blankets and moved everything into the warmest room for the night: mattress, blankets, pets, ect. The next morning we were homeless. It was to cold to live without electricity for any amount of time. Thankfully we got to stay with my husband's family until we found a place. We got a new place but unfortunately the stress and a genetic preposition gave me pre-eclampsia. I needed to be induced early and labor was traumatic due to a failed epidural and other factors. Now in an apartment with my new baby my husband had to find a new job to support the higher rent cost. The only job that worked was evenings 3:00-11:00 p.m. When my daughter was 6 months old I started working at a daycare to help cover costs. I took her to work with me from 7:00 a.m. to 3:00 p.m. This made me a single mom for the next year because of the opposite shift. Then my daughter and husband both needed surgery in the same month. Daughter was 16 months old getting her tubs and adenoids done and my husband was getting knee surgery making him unable to help with anything. I cared for both of them as they recovered but was greatful to have my husband home. As soon as my husband went back to work another crazy thing happened and he lost his job. Rent was to high for us to pay on my salary. We had to move again and this time across the state to my parents so I could also get help with my daughter. Now we are in a good place. She is almost 3. I make double hourly at my new job and my husband works from home most days with his new job. We still live with my parents. In there one bedroom cabin (they live in the main house). My daughter gets the room and we sleep in a loft. It is like living in a tiny home and she loves it. The problem is through all of this we keep getting told, "this is just life don't let it stop you from having more kids." "When can we expect the next one?" "You say you want one now but that will change." The comment that made me come here was "this is the perfect time to start trying again." Like really? In this one bedroom cabin? Still catching up on medical bill? Still saving for down payment on a home? Really? What do I say to these? We get them at every family even/visit. I've made it clear I'm done and my husband supports that. I get we just had a string of bad luck and this is just life but am I really unreasonable for not wanting more kids after everything.