Me and my girlfriend are going to transition in a long distance relationship in a few months, but theres a catch as I said. Long story short, we met at my workplace, and we have been together for almost 2 years now. During those 2 years, we love each other just like any other couple. But one time I found out that even before she said “yes” to me she has a existing partner already and its a FEMALE not a GUY, but her partner the FEMALE is miles away from us.
So we just continued our relationship like nothing happened even though her existing partner is still present and she has not broken up with her even though we talked about it at times.
I always ask her if she loves her more or she loves me more and her answer is always me and dont get me wrong I can see the genuine love and care she has for me. Its not like shes just saying it to make me feel better. But I can see the goodness in her nonetheless.
Now not to bore you with anymore stories, here is the catch I was talking about. Recently my girlfriend opened up to me that her FEMALE partner has filed a fiance visa that will bring her to the country her FEMALE partner is staying at. Of course this broke my heart. I wanted to do bad things and felt the world just came down on me and to this day it still feels heavy because overthinking starts kicking in imagination starts kicking and scenarios that didnt even happen starts kicking in.
Now those of you who dont know what the fiance visa is. Is when a citizen of a certain country can bring a foreign partner for him or her to marry within 90 days of arrival at the said country. Now to be fair the fiance visa was filed even before we met and had a relationship thats why I dont blame myself too much because who knew there was that thing brewing behind my back already.
Of course the hard part will be the routines I had with her. It will all change and we will be in a different time zone too. I have already drawn out plans of what to do when that time comes but still there will be days that I’ll think about her and there will be days that will be lonely and hard.
Me and my Girlfriend talked about it and she said to me that whatever happens I’ll wait for her because she will comeback to me. Again I know some of you might say I’m stupid but she loves me and I can see that she is serious nonetheless but there are a million reasons and a million motives to end our relationship now because whats the point right? I even told her that the day she will be flying is the day our relationship ends but she dont want it to end. So something or someone is pulling us back together and we are still here we haven’t broken up even though its kinda useless and hopeless to continue a relationship like this.
My girlfriend said to me whatever happens we will continue our relationship we will not end our relationship whatever the cost even though she will be with her FEMALE partner soon, and I’ll wait for her to comeback and she will marry me and trust that our plans together will come through in time.
Now to you good people out there that experienced this or not. I need your advice. Will I fight for the relationship? Will I wait for her? Is it worth it? Am I stupid enough to believe that she will comeback? Do I go out and meet someone new? Because the thoughts are gonna be hard and the waiting game is gonna be harder. And we don’t know that the future holds and what might happen in the future since its too early to tell.
Plus our communication will be hard and limited. That I think is the hardest part of this happening because she will be with her partner and she can only message me or call me when her oartner is away. It’s not like any other long distance relationships that communication is open anytime any place anywhere you want you can just call or message your partner.
So to the good people out there how can I cope up with this? what advice can yall give me? I have been praying hard and trusting god that he will provide during this hard times and that one day we will be together again because waiting is hard man. We are impatient and we have plans of our own but sometimes it just doesnt go our way. I’m sorry for being religous but we all know things happen for a reason and I know what is meant for you will comeback and you dont need to force it. So is this going to be worth it at the end? Or do I just move on with my life?
If you were in my situation right now what would be the right thing to do?