u/Equivalent_Play_5602

Siempre he tenido una duda respecto a las relaciones.

Si estás con una persona que te gusta y con la que compartes muchos valores, pero no conectas en absoluto con sus amistades, ¿creen que eso puede convertirse en un problema a largo plazo?

No hablo de que sean malas personas ni nada parecido. Me refiero a que tienen hábitos, prioridades o formas de ver la vida muy diferentes a las tuyas, al punto de que probablemente tú no elegirías tener ese tipo de amistades.

¿Creen que las amistades de una persona reflejan quién es realmente o es posible que alguien sea muy distinto a su círculo social?

¿Le darían importancia a eso al momento de construir una relación seria?

Mi novia (22) y yo (24) llevamos un tiempo juntos y hay algo que me genera dudas.

No tengo ningún problema personal con sus amigos, pero sinceramente muchas de sus actitudes, hábitos y formas de ver la vida no son cosas con las que yo conecte. Son personas con las que probablemente yo no tendría una amistad cercana.

Esto me ha hecho preguntarme algo: ¿qué tanto reflejan las amistades los valores de una persona?

Porque por un lado entiendo que cada quien puede elegir a sus amigos y eso no necesariamente define quién es. Pero por otro lado también siento que las personas con las que uno decide rodearse dicen bastante sobre lo que considera normal, importante o aceptable.

No estoy intentando cambiarle las amistades a mi novia ni decirle con quién juntarse. Más bien quiero saber si estoy siendo injusto al darle importancia a esto.

¿Les ha pasado estar con alguien a quien quieren mucho, pero no conectar en absoluto con su círculo de amigos? ¿Terminó siendo algo importante en la relación o no tuvo relevancia?

Hey everyone. This is my first time in a long distance relationship, and honestly, I am finding it really hard to navigate. I have been feeling completely drained emotionally for about a month now because of one specific thing, but I genuinely don't know if the problem is me being too intense and not knowing how to handle the distance, or if my feelings are valid.

I want to make it clear that overall our communication is good, we don't fight much, and the love is definitely there. There is a lot of affection and a really solid foundation between us. However, when it comes to something as important as daily reciprocity, which is crucial in a long-distance relationship, I feel like things are falling short.

The main issue is that my partner constantly asks me to send voice notes and tell them all about my day. I do it happily because it comes naturally to me and I love sharing, but I’ve noticed they usually don't even listen to them, they just leave me on read or completely change the subject. On the other hand, when they tell me about their day, I am always there, paying full attention and replying back. It feels like they consume my attention but don't have the time or the interest to give me theirs. It has gotten to the point where I am questioning if I should just start sharing things halfway or keep them as short as possible so I don't overwhelm them, which makes me feel really bad.

For example, yesterday they were working at a festival. I completely understand they were busy and exhausted, but they told me they were going to shower and then head straight to sleep, and they didn't even say goodnight. I just stayed up waiting. I know physical exhaustion plays a huge role and it wasn't done with bad intentions, but it still hurts that they couldn't take two seconds to just send a quick goodnight text.

We have talked about this before and agreed we would both put effort into making things work, but the dynamic remains the same. I feel like I am wearing myself out giving 100% to our daily interaction, and it ends up feeling like a one-way street, even though I know they love me.

Since this is my very first relationship like this, I wanted to ask you guys if it is normal for this to happen just because of each person's lifestyle, or if I am overreacting. Can a long-distance relationship actually survive when the daily attention feels so one-sided?

I would really appreciate your honest advice and opinions.