u/Equivalent_Summer526 — reddlx

The guy i loved called me a slut, verbally abused me and demanded I delete my IG. Then my brother found the chats and threatened an FIR.

pata hai aaj kya hua i really need to get this off my chest and get some outside perspective because my brain is completely fried from the stress i’ve known this guy since 2022 He was my crush and we've been in a complicated situationship. For two years, I have given this situation everything patience, loyalty, and constant effort, despite his heavy mood swings

Yesterday, everything blew up. He suddenly demanded 7 days of space and promised he would reach out. Because I actually respected his boundary and went quiet, his ego couldn't handle the loss of control He flipped the script and accused me of becoming invisible just to play games

When I tried to talk to him on Google Messages he went completely toxic He started mocking my physical appearance, calling me ugly and skinny just to crush my selfesteem.Then he made an insane, controlling demand: he said if I wanted to compensate for his wasted energy and time, I had to completely delete my Instagram account and make a new one, all because I had changed my privacy passwords

I panicked completely. I called him over 100 times trying to fix it. When I finally stopped at 10:15 PM because my body was in literal physical pain from the stress, I passed out from pure exhaustion. Seeing that his silent treatment wasn't making me beg anymore, he waited an hour and dropped a dramatic Goodbye, never contact me again bomb at 11:30PM just to shock me back into a panic.

This morning, my brother accidentally saw our chat history. He saw the vile names this guy called me (including calling me a slut and a playgirl) and completely lost it. My brother called him directly. At first, the guy actually laughed on the phone to act tough, but the absolute second my brother told him he was going to file an official FIR against him for harassment and verbal abuse, his entire act crumbled. He instantly started scrambling and saying sorry.

When I spoke to him after this, he tried to excuse it by saying he just reacted emotionally because he was angry and that he just wanted space. But the truth is, this isn't even the first time he has called me a slut. Now he's right back to shifting the blame, telling me to never talk to him again.

To make things worse, my brother is so furious at how I’ve been treated that he isn't listening to me right now. I feel completely overwhelmed, caught in the middle, and I can't stop crying. It’s insane how a guy who isn't even my actual boyfriend felt entitled to control my life and abuse me idk what to do atp😭

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u/Equivalent_Summer526 — 24 hours ago

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Why do guys expect premium loyalty, exclusivity, and 24/7 access while constantly reminding you they don't love you ?

Pata hai aaj kya hua hey everyone, I’m posting this because I’ve spent the last 24 hours processing the end of a 2 years dynamic. I want to talk about a very specific type of manipulation that happens in modern dating especially in exclusive situationships where one person uses absolute digital control to mask their own deep insecurities.

For context, I (19F) was talking to a guy (20M) exclusively for 2 years. We never officially labeled it as a relationship, but he demanded absolute loyalty and exclusivity from me. He slowly engineered a digital prison under the guise of protection making me delete my social media presence, cut off all my male friends, and frequently requiring me to screen-share my phone so he could audit my WhatsApp chats, photo gallery, and emails.

Because I sincerely liked him, I complied. I gave him 10/10 loyalty, complete transparency, and total access to my life.

Looking back, the mixed signals were incredibly confusing. We didn't have physical intimacy, but he kept me hooked through heavy, regular sexting and intense online closeness. He still expected me to stay completely hidden and exclusive to him. He wanted all the validation, attention, and benefits of a relationship without ever having to step up or take responsibility.

Tonight, the double standards hit a breaking point. I realized I was giving premium relationship-level loyalty to a guy treating me like a part-time option. I decided to draw a hard line, protect my peace, and told him straight up that I changed my Instagram passwords and revoked his access.

The psychological shift in him the exact second he realized he lost his keys to my private life was textbook. The moment he realized he lost his leverage and couldn't monitor me anymore, his ego completely shattered. Since he could no longer control my actions, he launched a massive counter-attack via text to make me feel small, lower my self-worth, and pretend he was the one rejecting me.

When I questioned his sudden shift, he openly typed: "Expectations and all ke baad consider". When I asked him what "consider" even means, he flatly replied: "Consider as a choice." He literally told me to my face that I am just a transactional option.

The moment I told him I gave him total transparency only to get this disrespect in return, he completely shut down and weaponized emotional distance, texting: "I don't love you. Expectations hai meri kuch. And bakki tabhi consider kar sakta hu."

When I told him I deserved to be loved back, he twisted it to make me feel guilty for having basic human feelings, texting: "That hope feels like burden for me... You said you want to be loved. I cant do that. Go and find someone."

When he realized his emotional walls weren't breaking my resolve, he tried to take away the only thing he actually used me for, texting: "And tu bhi kuch initiate matt kiya kar. Wo convo." (referring to the sexting).

The moment I calmly agreed to his face and replied with a simple "Yeah", his ego couldn't handle the lack of drama or begging. He immediately snapped a final, desperate: "By. Badme baat karte hai. Go and sleep." just to force himself into having the last word and pretend he was walking away from me.

I am completely done with this situation, blocked him everywhere For the girls who have been through this: how do you deal with the sudden anger of realizing you shrank yourself for a guy who was just a walking inferiority complex? And to the guys here, please explain the logic of demanding premium exclusivity while telling someone they are just option.

u/Equivalent_Summer526 — 4 days ago

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My situationship is treating me like a stranger and spitting on my loyalty. Am I wrong for wanting one final conversation?

Pata hai aaj kya hua i 19F have been in a situationship for 1.5 years that felt like a full-blown relationship. I was completely devoted to him I deleted my Instagram and Snapchat accounts just to make him feel secure. I stayed by his side while he cried over his past and his secrets. I felt like his only support system.

Since I’ve started asking for basic honesty about things I found out (like his secrets regarding other women), he has turned incredibly cold. He claims I’m crossing boundaries just by wanting to talk.

In our latest argument, he told me "I spit on this loyalty" because he found a cleared chat from a time I was feeling pressured and scared of his reaction. When I begged him to just have one calm, 5-minute conversation so we didn't end things with so much hate, he just texted "Yeah goodbye" and stopped responding.

I feel completely discarded. He acts like I’m an immature kid for wanting closure after everything we went through.

Is it crossing boundaries to ask for a final phone call instead of a cold text?

TL;DR: I gave my all to a 1.5-year situationship, including deleting my social life for him. Now that I’m moving, he’s using boundaries as an excuse to be cruel and refuses to give me even five minutes of his time.

u/Equivalent_Summer526 — 10 days ago

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Hey everyone. I’m a science student who just went through the JEE grind + drop year

My Stats: 10th (97%), 12th HSC (70%), JEE Main (98 percentile). MHT-CET: (Waiting for results, but expecting high)

Despite the 98 percentile, I’m miserable. I only did PCM because of intense peer pressure. I’ve been isolated for years and my mental health is in a bad place because I’m forcing myself to study subjects I have zero interest in.

My actual interests are International Relations, History, and Political Science. I've realized I can't do 4 more years of labs and equations. I have registered for the MHT-CET Law

For those who switched from Science/JEE to Law: how was the transition? Did your mental health improve once you started studying things you actually liked (Pol Sc/History)?

I'm tired of living for other people😭

Am i taking right decision?

I’m terrified of making the wrong choice again, but the thought of 4 years of Engineering feels like a prison sentence.

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u/Equivalent_Summer526 — 20 days ago

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I need some honest perspective because I’m at my breaking point.

I scored 97% student in 10th (2023). I wanted Humanities, but peer pressure and parents forced me into PCMB + JEE coaching. I’ve spent the last three years including a drop year completely isolated. My mental health is trashed.

Myquals - 10th- 97%(CBSE)

12th (HSC Maharashtra): 70% (Missed the 75% JEE criteria for NITs/IITs).

JEE Main: 98 percentile.

MHT-CET: (Waiting for results, but expecting high).

I realized I don't just dislike PCM I hate studying it. Forcing myself through these subjects for the sake of reputation and safety has left me feeling empty and isolated. I have a deep, genuine interest in History, Geography, Political Science, and International Relations. I actually enjoy reading about these topics for hours, whereas PCM feels like a chore that’s killing my brain.

The Dilemma

I’m likely eligible for VJTI/COEP because the 75% rule doesn't apply there. But I’m terrified that if I take Engineering, I’m signing up for 4 more years of mental torture.

Has anyone here switched from a JEE track to something like Law (BA-LLB) or International Relations?

Is the college like VJTI or COEP worth the burnout if I eventually want to pivot to UPSC or Humanities later anyway?

Does the isolation of the coaching drop year life get better in Engineering if you don't even like the subjects?

Please don't judge. I’m just a student who realized too late that I’ve been living someone else's life.

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u/Equivalent_Summer526 — 20 days ago