My Child Cried and Begged Me Not To Go Back With Abusive Coparent This Week
I have two children and my oldest has always been singled out and abused by her mom. My ex was arrested a few years back for assaulting me and I cared for the children with her only having every other weekend for a few years. She went to court (where she has a big advantage financially) and was able to get 50/50 custody. It terrified by daughter.
A few years have passed and there have been instances of family violence with my daughter. Social services was contacted by her therapist but never ending up doing anything. From my perspective it is at least worth it because it seems to slow down the physical abuse but she is still abusing her mentally.
She tells her she is a bad kid and yells at her constantly. Since the custody change happened I have seen my daughter come back every single time getting more and more depressed. She feels powerless to stop anything and her mental health has taken a hit.
Right before our last exchange it was particularly bad. My daughter begged me not to go. She told me she was only happy with me and she doesn't understand we she doesn't have a say. She just cuddled with me all night and wouldn't let me go. In the morning it seemed she really wanted to be sick so she didn't have to go to school and be picked up afterwards.
My other child has had real problems in school. He has not shown as many problems switching but has been saying his mom has gotten angrier and is yelling at him more lately.
I have done absolutely everything I can do through the courts. I have to deal with this by being as supportive as I can be but I am drained. I don't think most people can understand so I try to explain to them what if you sent your kids to a daycare where they hit them and called them stupid and then a judge ordered you to send those kids back to that daycare for a week at a time?
This feels so unnatural and I am at a loss for how to help my children or myself to mentally get through this. I love that my daughter cares for me and trusts me but her begging to stay with me doesn't feel good. It feels brutal and inhumane.