u/Equivalent_Wheel1466

I (27M) ended my engagement with my fiancée (24F) after 4 years together. I am currently on Day 24 of strict No Contact and spiraling over the silence.
The Context:
Past 3 Years: She was anxiously attached, constantly begging me to finish my long-distance career so we could move in together.
The Bad Year: Between a rough career transition for me and a failed trial run living together, the dynamic shifted. She felt like a caregiver, went to therapy, and built a hyper-independent life with a new weekend hobby group.
The Panic: As our summer move-in date approached, the pressure caused an ADHD/anxiety shutdown. The night before the split, she admitted she was terrified of a bad breakup and said: "I wish we could just live apart and just date again."
The Breakup:
I walked away 24 days ago to break the cycle. It was devastating—she sobbed into my chest, refused to say the breakup words, and cried over the ring box. The next day, she texted a family friend: "I am heartbroken. I hope we find our way back together."
The Current Problem:
On social media, she is out every single weekend with her new friends, looking totally fine and smiling. I’m proud of her for finding her footing, but I'm terrified this "relief" from the pressure will lead to permanent drift and she'll realize she prefers being single [Brides, Reddit BreakUps].
My Plan:
I am reaching out on Day 34 (during a break in her work schedule) to ask for a low-pressure phone call ]. I want to take the move completely off the table, keep my job 2 hours away, and suggest we step back to just dating long-distance for a year to rebuild our friendship without marriage pressure
Am I being smart by using this space to kill the unhealthy pressure, or am I lying to myself while she moves on? Thanks for any advice. I’m