Does anyone else's pwBPD act like they're doing advanced nuclear physics equations when you're trying to make plans with them?
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first post here, long time lurker
I try to avoid it but we live in the same city, I've only recently had the big realization/stepped out of the fog... so holidays, and other things need to get planned at times. Trying to get my uBPD mom to agree on a time, location, tell me what she'd like to do etc. is a nightmare. She's always inviting me out which I usually decline, but then when we are planning something she gets so weird and never outright says what she wants, she says "no" to my suggestions, then halfheartedly offers something but keeps changing her mind. Everything becomes a Tetris puzzle. Then she will "misremember" details or will arrive there late, etc. The back and forth will stretch out for days at a time.
Then when we are finally out, she is constantly pushing the envelope to extend the visit or add on to the plans. When I set boundaries and say no, she sulks like crazy.