AIO? He wants to stay at his ex’s but tells me she won’t be there for a month.
Okay so basically, I saw my partner’s phone whilst we were walking and he was basically chatting with his ex on instagram.
I confronted him about these texts and he told me he texted her to ask whether he could stay at hers for the upcoming 2 months since she « wouldn’t be there as she’d be on holiday overseas ». He told me he didn’t want to stay at his mom’s as there will be family coming over (he told me they’d be 13 people at her mom’s and that it’d be very uncomfortable), which is the reason why he asked this favour to his ex.
There is a background of him lying to me about that exact same situation (he told me he was at hers and that she wasn’t there but I found out she actually was : I still haven’t confronted him about that since he doesn’t know I know). He also cheated on me with her when we started our relationship. Before we started to date he did confess about still not truly being over with his ex (they were together for 2 years), and I did accept that, but after he cheated, I decided to break up with him as I found out I actually didn’t want to deal with all of that. He eventually came back, I told him I would not want to start anything unless he was truly over with her. He understood and still wanted to come back so we ended up being back together. I told him I did not want him to be in touch with her in any way whatsoever, and that unless he does not respect that I would not want to get back with him. He still decided he wanted to come back so I interpreted it as an agreement to my « conditions ».
Now I’m faced with the situation I first described. What do you think? I’m feeling very upset but he insists on saying that she’s not there and that it’s thus not problematic.
Am I overreacting?