[OR] Dad trying to modify custody/parenting time. What am I missing?
Oregon dad of two (4 & 7). Current order gives me limited parenting time, but there have been repeated problems with the order actually being followed, including denied/changed parenting time and unilateral decisions by Mom.
There are also ongoing concerns about Mom's ability to consistently care for the kids due to recurring medical issues. I'm not trying to diagnose or attack her, I'm trying to figure out what is legally relevant and what isn't.
I've spoken with several attorneys and gotten different answers about whether I should pursue custody/parenting-time modification, enforcement of the existing order, or both. Retainers are costly, so I'm trying to understand my options before taking that step.
My goals are:
-More substantial and consistent parenting time, [Ideally 50/50 or primary custody.]
-An arrangement that actually works for the kids and can be followed consistently.
-A child support amount that is sustainable rather than forcing me further into debt.
I have documentation of the parenting-time issues and communications.
For those who've been through a modification:
What actually made a difference in your case?
What evidence mattered?
Would you pursue enforcement first, modification, or both?
Are there Oregon-specific resources or strategies I should know about?
I'm specifically looking for practical advice/experiences, not just "get a lawyer." I've already talked to several.