u/EstablishmentHot4889

I think reading this book would instantly help a lot of Waywards understand the State of the betrayed partner in the aftermath of betrayal. Excellent cleat explanations of the vascillating states of attachment.

It will take supreme skill for a Betrayer/Wayward to learn to stay emotionally available in the face of triggers and disconnections.

Another great resource is Al Turtle's Relationship Wisdom.

Go for it learning those skills! Every day and every action counts.

Note: I am 3 years post last DDay and on path for a good reconciliation.