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I had to cut my parents out of my life. They were abusive towards me in multiple ways since childhood. I dated, got married, and as soon as I did, they started mentally abusing my husband for having multiple disabilities, health problems, and they had a problem with him getting assistance from the state and being found disabled by the state. I got pregnant and had a son. After he was born we cut ties with my parents. Over the phone my mom told us that she doesn't care about the law and she will not stop until my son is home with them. We called the police and they advised us to get a protective order so we did. Then about a month later, CPS calls and says they are on their way to our house. They said they got a report and they are 40 minutes away and told us we have no choice but to let her in our home. I offered to talk about it either over the phone or meet somewhere and she said no, she's coming into our home to see our child. Under duress we let her in. I asked what the accusations were and she stated that he had a flat spot on his head, he just lays around all day, is malnourished, doesn't go to doctor appointments, and is underweight. He was born vaginally, he was late, and came out with a flat spot due to being a big baby. I was struggling to produce breast milk and we had to transition him to formula which made him constipated. We called the doctor and they told us to give him prune juice. We did and it helped. He eventually was doing well taking formula and he gained weight beyond normal and the doctor said they prefer a chunky baby. The CPS worker told us she saw his medical records and confirmed that what we said was true and that he has been going to his routine doctor visits. She said that it doesn't matter though and we have no choice but to let her in because a report was made. We told CPS that this is ridiculous because his head shape was a birth defect and my husband has digestive issues as part of his disabilities. She told us that she would close out the case and she left. It's been months and we have heard nothing or gotten anything in the mail saying it was closed. We recently went to our son's 9 month appointment. Every appointment he has, we ask what goals do we need to meet by the next appointment. We were told by the 9 month appointment that he needs to be sitting up on his own, crawling, and feeding him baby food along with formula. All of that has been done well before this appointment. We recently had his 9 month appointment and when we first go in the nurse comes in and has us strip him down to his diaper and then naked and she measured him and weighed him. Our son hates being cold or messed with so as soon as we stripped him down he started screaming nonstop until he was red. After he was weighed, the nurse told us he needed to stay just in his diaper so my husband wrapped him in a blanket and held him. A new doctor comes in, introduces herself, and our son went into stranger danger mode. He was placed on the cold table and was screaming and trying to curl up into a ball. The doctor examined him and asked if he has been trying to stand up on his own. We told her that he has been crawling and sitting up on his own and that was what we were told at his last appointment would be the milestone for this appointment. We also told her that we thought he didn't need to be walking until he was a year old. She tried to get him to try standing up by holding him and getting him to put weight on his legs. He wouldnt and kept scrunching up his legs and crying so she said that he's not behind but she wants to make sure he doesn't end up being behind. She suggested that we have a social worker come into our home and give him physical therapy so that he will be able to walk. Again our son doesn't like strangers or being cold so he didn't want to do it for her because he was scared. She also said she was concerned about his hip. She was rotating his legs to checking for motion and flexibility and was like oh he's good. We told her we didnt want anyone coming into our home because of what happened with CPS. She then said are you willing to take him somewhere then. We said sure and she said she would write a prescription for physical therapy but they might not even take him because he is too young or not behind yet. She repeated herself and said she wants to make sure he doesn't end up being behind. Another thing is when she was checking his ears and examining him she was shaking the entire time like she was nervous or something which we thought was very odd. She was even struggling to be steady when she was checking his eyes and ears. We are worried that there is still an active case against us because we haven't been notified about it being closed and it seems like they have an agenda. This whole past doctor visit was really weird. We are below the poverty line and we need help getting legal representation. Our son is well loved and cared for. Please help us.