Help me with this
My father (54M) had a ruptured ACOM aneurysm with WFNS Grade III SAH. He underwent left pterional craniotomy and clipping about 2 months ago. He is in recovery stage now and he is getting irritated easily and he is tired most of the times .
I may sound a bit selfish here, but this has been weighing on my mind deeply.
When my father was admitted with a ruptured ACOM aneurysm, the doctors gave us two options — clipping or coiling. Clipping had to be done immediately. Coiling would take around 3 days because of logistics, and the doctors explained there was a significant risk of re-rupture during that waiting period, especially since his BP was unstable at that time.
So I chose clipping.
Today, seeing his struggles during recovery — especially the emotional changes, irritation, and the impact on our family — a part of me keeps wondering whether coiling would have made things easier for him. I’m truly grateful that he survived and is still with us, but deep down I sometimes replay that decision and question myself.
Has anyone else felt this kind of guilt or second-guessing after choosing a treatment option for a loved one? Especially families dealing with ruptured aneurysm recovery?