Pain of not having your mom show up for you in motherhood
hi! I am just needing to vent a little as I’m having a very hard time emotionally processing how my mom has shown up for me during pregnancy, pp and motherhood.
Quick backstory- I grew up with her as a single mom, parents divorced when I was 8 and my dad just decided he didn’t want to participate anymore so he’s been MIA for awhile. Thats a whole other story. My mom had I had a good relationship growing up but she did work a lot, rightfully so.
Once I became a mom, I had to set some boundaries and she has a hard time with them. Things like no candy/sugar for my 16 month old. Medical decisions we made, etc. I think a lot of the boundary setting pushed her away. She lives 30 minutes away from us, is retired and can drive has only come to our house 4x since my son has been born. She made us one meal postpartum and that was it. She doesn’t ask how I am or for pictures of my son or what he’s up to. If we want to see her, we have to go to her and it’s usually only for 1-2 hours max. I am just realizing that she doesn’t really care and it’s so painful. I just don’t know how we got here and am just in shock that she is missing out on so much. It hurts. Anyone else relate?