AITAH for saying no to my mom's horrendous plan
Hi y'all
16M from India, got some digestive issues last year, got fixed with medicines, this time I got an acute unexplained illness where I consecutively got fever, stomach ache, diarrhoea kinda, and vomiting.. all of them.. but never on the same day, they like switched places somehow.
Went back to doctor, he prescribed many tests, had a little problem in kidney function reports and sgpt, sgot, alt and bilirubin higher than usual (bilirubin and sgpt were high last time too but since it improved we let go), but an ultrasound test report revealed that I have a 17.4mm gall bladder stone and the gall bladder is distended.. was pretty shocked imo.. but let's make it short ig. The doctor just told us to meet a general surgeon and he'll tell us if surgery is needed or not.
On the way back mom started telling me how this relative, that relative managed it, how it can be shrunk via homoeopathy and ayurved, which got me suspicious. I just kept telling her and still do, just meet the doctor, if he calls for surgery, and you think it's unnecessary, meet 2 more doctors (gastroenterologist/surgeon) and if they say it's necessary, get surgery done, at midnight she kinda agreed too but today morning I wake up and I'm forcefully being fed bryophyllum leaves, I'm sure that it'll never dissolve a 17.4 mm one, and it's for urinary bladder anyways, and I sometimes listen to her stuff cuz to keep her heart, but I'm not go out of my way, i already had indigestion so chewing leaves is a no-brainer, so said no to some stuff and dismissed her homoeopathy and other ideas.
Then she told me her grand plan, she wanted to visit the doctor but if he said yes for surgery, she's wait for like a month kinda and try getting it smaller or dissolved using... Again, homoeopathy and ayurved, she doesn't know that even if she does that it'll likely form again, so naturally I shouted at her and all, and she told me to just do medical stuff with my father (very busy).
Even yesterday she was fearful and insecure ig, so my uneducated maternal grandmother who happens to be at our house(I mn she thinks she's saying the right thing but sadly she doesn't know tbh), they blamed me for living in the wrong room according to house rules in Hinduism (which aren't my beliefs), that side is meant for the house head (bs), I'm a student n I just occupy one of four rooms anyways.. I need peace bruh..and it turned into a huge argument and obviously I won't budge in front of superstitions ever.
My mom is really highly educated, she has so many degrees I've lost count, Phd, masters, law idk what not... But still why doesn't she use her brain for a moment, and btw it's not like she won't get me into surgery, she just has this prejudice or whatever in her mind, that surgery=bad, if something fix with no surgery=good... Can't blame my grandmother cuz she's just literate and not formally educated, luckily my dad isn't superstitious at all so I can't be bullied or get their beliefs forced on me ever.
Since the problems already arose, even if stuff like that fixed it in decades, it won't be viable here. Also point to note my dad is a high ranked govt official so govt wil pay in whatever priv/govt hospital we get treatment, so it's basically free.
Sorry {TL/DR- Mother plans to try fixing gall bladder stone via homoeopathy, ayurved, I believe it's stupidity, she tells me a list of random people and some made up ones that it did work in, I'm in a fix, says she'll delay surgery by a month to try and dissolve/shrink it}
Sorry, first post idk how to keep stuff short, if some medically experienced ppl see it, please help ig...others too💔