Do I owe her a apology?AITAH?
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So as the title says I (19M) met an old friend of mine(19F) in a tuition session.We were good childhood friends upto like age 9 when I switched schools and basically just cut contact with her for 8 years. So fast forward 8 years later the girl let's call her V,meets me at a class,for tuition.After seeing her ofcourse I approach her and ask her if she still remembered me and she said yes she still remembers also all of my names.So the sessions done and we have a walk back home,I borrow her number to continue things via text and we rekindle the friendship we once shared.
However,we were teens.hormornes are running high and I notice she's starting to set her eyes on me a lot like a lot.I feel the connection growing so I did what anyone would do at that moment, engaged it.So our texts begin becoming flirty and intimate and I basically confess informally how I feel for her and she seemed to get the memo.
So we are in a relationship now and this friend of mine who were aren't now teases me that he can rizz (I let my guard down and found out he manipulated me very late into it) and because I know she's a very reserved person i decide to take the bet coz I knew she would block him from the get go so I gave him her number.He somehow maneuvered his way out of getting blocked and they start having a conversation.
Now I'm not the jealous type but her actions start going a bit off like my message is on delivered for a while before she answers.Before she used to answer immediately.Her actions were off but they were justifiable so I didn't mind it at all but just noticed it.Her energy and vibe then started not to resonate with mine,like I would tell her something interesting but she would just say "yeah" or "ok" just a meh attitude.I still didn't ask of anything.
Then my friend just started texting me screenshots of the extent of the conversations and I noticed two instances where we both texted her at the same time and she replied to him immediately and replied to me 10 min after she replied back so ofcourse I start getting upset coz what was she doing in a span of 10 minutes,I'm not controlling or anything I'm just insecure and I just can't let it go and although the texts were mostly platonic(he later admitted he hid some texts from me)I could tell she was getting warmer towards him.
I dont do anything about it coz she didn't know I was the one who shared her number to basically test her loyalty and continued talking normally until we went to school.She started becoming colder like in the past she would continue or engage stories but now she just wants to cut them shorts and she would only react nicely if I would tell her things like love you.
So we went to school right after and i spent a good 6 months in non contact with her So I just decided I was not gonna be a choice and just basically decided to not continue being intimate with her over text when I come back home.So we go home,I decided not to text her first and she took a total of 21 days before texting me.I became colder and colder until our texts were like once a week then it just died.
So AITA coz I'm shy and I really fear rejection so when I'm in a situation where a girl has to choose between me and another guy,I usually just fold coz I dont think I would handle rejection easily.Two years down the line we see each other rarely and everytime I see her she wears the face of confusion and being lost about what she did wrong.We were so close to the fact that we could've had sex together but I was late to recieve the message.Now it's a shell of what it used to be,now I'm wondering what to do although I concede I should have had a talk with her but I thought she knew what she was doing.