I am in love with a guy who is in a *very* serious relationship
ok that sounds god awful let me provide context:
I joined private evening classes about two months ago (I am asian so this is normal), wait let me quickly explain seating arrangements so you guys can understand whats happening, so there are three rows of long benches (right, middle, left), which can fit 6 people each and there are two synced smart boards in front, now from the row on the left the boards are not visible so basically girls sit in the middle row and boys on the right (we are not allowed to sit together). I sit on the fourth bench on the very right exactly next to the boys' row but there is an obvious walking gap in the middle.
Now, on the first day of class I noticed a guy who was sitting on the fifth bench towards the very left (basically he was diagonally across from me but towards the back) and obviously he is insanely attractive, tall, curly hair you get the gist so we made eye contact once, then twice then thrice (you get it), fast forward this has continued for a week but now we also smile at each other and mind you by this point it was very obvious that I had a crush on him and me, and including everyone else in class, thought he also liked me back (guess what?).
Anyway, a week later he comes in with a....questionable haircut and obviously I, being beyond shocked, ask him what possibly led to that decision, he tells me it was a dare, we introduce ourselves (though we technically already knew each others names cause of roll call but sure whatevs) and now we are talking mind you actively flirting too (at least I thought we were doing that) and at this juncture I have no inclination to even suspect that he could be dating someone because you know he is flirting with me let me provide an example of how it was: so I have quite a unique name and he asked me what it meant, I told him that it meant 'desire' and he says and I quote "wow your mom really knew chose a fitting name" and I ask him what he means by that but he refuses to specify which leads to me saying in quite a playful manner "if you don't tell me what you meant I'll assume the least family friendly version of events" and he said "that is exactly why I cant tell you"....are you seeing how my day dreaming began?
A few days later we are playing the guess who my crush is game at the very end of classes and obviously I am describing him and his crush sounds a lot like me as well (short, fair, smart) and mind you the parts that would have made it perspicuous that the girl was not me (does she wear glasses? whats her hair colour? does she come to our pvt classes?) he just refused to answer, now as I mentioned beforehand this is towards the conclusion of classes so we had to leave for home to avoid traffic without disclosing the names. The next day we say our first guesses its takes him three tries and when I affirm that the crush is in fact him he looks surprised and he says "but I told you about the other girl that I like"....now I am a lot of things but dull witted is not one of them, I understood that his crush is not me so I tell him that I did not know he had another crush when I developed feelings, now I was disappointed ,yes, however all of this also happened in a month so I was not heartbroken or anything of that sort but this guy? oh he looked shattered I am not in the slightest bit exaggerating and then he tells me about his....love commitment I guess? lets see what you think it is:
So, apparently a year ago a girl confessed to him and at the time he did not like her so he obviously rejected her then few weeks later she got into another relationship and that was when our 'Prince Charming' realised that he was actually totally in love with her so he broke them off but they did not start dating then. They promised to start dating each other in march for some reason which was also when I met him.
Now back to present day this guy is absolutely on the verge of depression as he tells me this and he is also saying things like "god I wish I had met you before", "I dont care about looks but you are also kinder than her" et cetera but he is also saying "I dont wanna break my promise" "I have morals" et cetera. So I am trying to help him reach a decision I, trying to be supportive, tell him that I do not have a problem with either of the way that this goes, if his liking for me wins over his morals he can absolutely date me or if his morals take the higher ranking he can date her and I also make it known that in choosing to date her he would not lose me as a friend or anything of that sort. After much talking he decides to stay with her, now I know what you are thinking that should have been the end of it then and that is exactly what I thought too except it wasn't.
You see the very next day this guy comes in to class and he is acting exactly the same saying "you are the most brilliant person I have ever met" after I told him an answer that he should have known in the first place, offering to tie my shoelaces and I had to pry him away with a teasing tone that do that for your gf or something and he goes, oh she wouldn't mind...
Now, I tried to fight it....a lot....I mean I even I tried to date someone else, I tried to shorten our conversations and stay with my other friends but he is very persistent and I am incredibly weak when it comes to his dazzling smile, as the days progress I keep falling just a little more for him, I can ignore my feelings for him during the day but at night? oh do the thoughts unwind.
Oh and everyone in class thinks we are dating and I brought it up to him implying that maybe we should make it known that we are not and he just says that he finds it funny and we should continue to let them think so...
I am not a horrible person or anything I am not trying to break them up I am not even entertaining the thought of telling him that I might still be in love, in fact I am in a group chat with him and his gf so..... I kind of just want advice on how to proceed?