Me (18M) and my girlfriend (18F) are not in good terms right now.
Hello, I need honest opinions about my relationship situation because I genuinely can’t tell if I’m overthinking or if I handled things badly.
For context, my girlfriend recently went through something really traumatic involving her father, and ever since then she’s been emotionally exhausted and more sensitive/reactive. I’ve also realized I probably have anxious attachment, so when I feel distance or tension, my mind spirals badly.
A few days ago, I suggested: “Hey, I have a rule to propose, let’s sleep call every time we sleep.”
To me, it was meant as comfort/closeness because I overthink a lot and feel safer when we’re connected. But she reacted really negatively. She turned off the camera and said: “Repeating history, hmm?”
I was shocked and I panicked because we were on a call that time and she suddenly gave me that disgusted look. I kept trying to explain that it wasn’t my intention at all, but she kept insisting that it still made her uncomfortable regardless of my intent.
Now I feel hurt too because I never meant to control her, and her reaction made me feel like I was being compared to toxic/controlling men. I apologized multiple times and explained my anxious attachment, but she’s still upset and not very reassuring toward me.
That was yesterday, and now she's having notes on her messenger about Sabrina Carpenter songs. I searched for the meaning of the songs “Nobody's Son” and “Sharpest Tool” and it's very painful for me to know about the meaning of those songs.